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So I met a woman at a date site, really like her, but I think she just stabbed me....

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So I met a woman, a really nice person. We hit it off really good from the beginning. The relationship is about 3 weeks old. She removed her info from the dating site, I cancelled my account, but still visit sometimes to kill time during work. I also belonged to another site, also, but samething, cancelled the account, but visit during the day to kill time. Our relationship is going well enough that she has expressed an interest in moving just a few basic things here, like toothbrush and what not, and I am cool with that. Tonight I visit the second dating site, and low and behold, she has joined them with a brand new portrait. I can only gather that this does not mean well for our relationship. Am I wrong to assume this isnt a good sign? I mean it was just last night we talked about her moving some stuff in.

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You guys aren't committed yet.

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Yes, suppose we havent said those words, but if she is talking about moving things over, its past casual dating, isnt it?

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steve, why are you visiting dating sites to kill time? Something to consider.

 

I wouldn't say anything but for interests sake, you could create a dummy account and contact her, to see what happens...

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If she had been on there all along and hadn't removed her profile/portrait, I wouldn't think it was that big a deal yet because I can only assume you haven't had "the talk yet." However, seeing as she was off the site, and now is back...well, yeah. That's not a good sign. But it could mean a number of things - she's not interested in a commitment, or doesn't think you are. Either way, you two should communicate about where you are in the relationship.

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steve, why are you visiting dating sites to kill time? Something to consider.

 

I wouldn't say anything but for interests sake, you could create a dummy account and contact her, to see what happens...

Basically, my job is pretty slow during the day, and I have it saved to my favorites from before, I just run down the line and visit everything in favorites.

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So I met a woman, a really nice person. We hit it off really good from the beginning. The relationship is about 3 weeks old. She removed her info from the dating site, I cancelled my account, but still visit sometimes to kill time during work. I also belonged to another site, also, but samething, cancelled the account, but visit during the day to kill time. Our relationship is going well enough that she has expressed an interest in moving just a few basic things here, like toothbrush and what not, and I am cool with that. Tonight I visit the second dating site, and low and behold, she has joined them with a brand new portrait. I can only gather that this does not mean well for our relationship. Am I wrong to assume this isnt a good sign? I mean it was just last night we talked about her moving some stuff in.

 

 

Nope..it doesn't look good.. a friend of mine does the same thing.. she asks the guys to remove their profile..then she removes hers...then start another one with new details... she is addicted to those sites... and she always wants to see if there is someone better... that's the game with the Internet dating sites.

 

She got caught last week too... lol

 

They are not in a committed relationship... but he wants the exclusivity... yeah right... how can she be sure he's not fooling around... he doesn't want to commit himself but wants exclusivity...

 

I don't trust anyone on these sites.

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If she had been on there all along and hadn't removed her profile/portrait, I wouldn't think it was that big a deal yet because I can only assume you haven't had "the talk yet." However, seeing as she was off the site, and now is back...well, yeah. That's not a good sign. But it could mean a number of things - she's not interested in a commitment, or doesn't think you are. Either way, you two should communicate about where you are in the relationship.

She didnt even rejoin the original site, she joined a completely different site.

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I wouldn't say anything but for interests sake, you could create a dummy account and contact her, to see what happens...

 

...and why would this be a good idea?

 

If you can't have a forthright conversation about whether you are exclusive, you are nowhere near ready to have anyone moving their things to the other's place.

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steve, why are you visiting dating sites to kill time? Something to consider.

 

I wouldn't say anything but for interests sake, you could create a dummy account and contact her, to see what happens...

 

Oooo this is bad. My best friend does this and it ALWAYS ends up biting her in the behind.

 

I'd moreso want to look into why you don't trust that she's with you. The fact that you're looking, says there's a trust issue. I know it all too well, because after my ex would never commit, I was always logging into his dating site to see when he was last active, and well, it was never good news.

 

Of course now that he's NOT with me, and seeing someone else, he's not logged into said site in like 6 months.

 

Bastards.

 

I'd be wary of how you're responding, more than worrying about if she's a keeper, at this point...

 

And, just for the record, moving something in, like a toothbrush, isn't a HUGE deal in my opinion. A toothbrush costs about 2 dollars to replace. If she started leaving clothing at your place, then I'd think her mindset was more on the committed side.

 

Just my 2 cents.

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I thought you meant she had actually, physically, stabbed you :eek:

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She didnt even rejoin the original site, she joined a completely different site.

 

For arguements sake, how do you know she put the pic up recently. Does the site explicitly say when a photo was added?

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Oh no, I wasnt roaming around to see if she was on there, I truly just putz around on it killing time,...Im alone quite a bit now, and its just part of a daily routine at this point. I would love an exclusive relationship with her.

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For arguements sake, how do you know she put the pic up recently. Does the site explicitly say when a photo was added?

It says 'NEW' with her pic and info. And when she joined.

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Oh no, I wasnt roaming around to see if she was on there, I truly just putz around on it killing time,...Im alone quite a bit now, and its just part of a daily routine at this point. I would love an exclusive relationship with her.

 

Honey the internet is a HUGE place. Why do you need to keep this specific site on your radar? Esp if you're not dating.

 

I'd like to input another thought.

 

If you receive email saying "you've got mail" more than likely, in or out of a relationship, you might go to read it out of curiousity. People can get false activity (meaning, you can thnik someone is actively looking) when really they just might be curious as to what someone had to say. This doesn't mean they aren't happy with you and doesn't mean they are looking to replace you. If you were to get mail on one of these sites, would you look?

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Oh no, I wasnt roaming around to see if she was on there, I truly just putz around on it killing time,...Im alone quite a bit now, and its just part of a daily routine at this point. I would love an exclusive relationship with her.

 

hahaha just like my friend's buddy.. he wants an exclusive relationship with her.. (but no commitment) but doesn't want her on the dating sites any longer.. when he is surfing them every day... She caught him many times...

 

so now it's seem that they are constantly spying on each other on those sites... quite ridiculous if you ask me...

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Blind trust will come back to bite you in the arse. A quick test can't hurt, if there's nothing to hide.

 

In all honesty, say I was seeing someone on LS. I would setup a fake account and hit them up via PM, to see how far they would go.

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Honey the internet is a HUGE place. Why do you need to keep this specific site on your radar? Esp if you're not dating.

 

I'd like to input another thought.

 

If you receive email saying "you've got mail" more than likely, in or out of a relationship, you might go to read it out of curiousity. People can get false activity (meaning, you can thnik someone is actively looking) when really they just might be curious as to what someone had to say. This doesn't mean they aren't happy with you and doesn't mean they are looking to replace you. If you were to get mail on one of these sites, would you look?

Yes, but I wouldnt pay $30 to see it.

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It says 'NEW' with her pic and info. And when she joined.

 

Is it possible she knows you've been logging into these sites and therefore thinks YOU aren't interested?

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Blind trust will come back to bite you in the arse. A quick test can't hurt, if there's nothing to hide.

 

In all honesty, say I was seeing someone on LS. I would setup a fake account and hit them up via PM, to see how far they would go.

 

:eek: But you know I like a bit of a flirt TBF ;)

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I dont think so, I believe you have to be a member to see peoples pics, and when you log on it tells everyone else just how long ago you where last on.

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It may be possible that she is just killing time as well, and that was one of many pictures that she decided to use.

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It may be possible that she is just killing time as well, and that was one of many pictures that she decided to use.

I realise that, I guess my point is, this is a second site she wasnt with until just now, so if she was just killing time and wasnt interested, why would she pay $30 to kill time?

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:eek: But you know I like a bit of a flirt TBF ;)

In all honesty darlin, I wouldn't put up with your brand of flirting. :)

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I realise that, I guess my point is, this is a second site she wasnt with until just now, so if she was just killing time and wasnt interested, why would she pay $30 to kill time?

 

Oh well that definately changes things. You didnt say all that. If she is spending cash on a website then she is definately doing it to get the full benefits and to have a great outcome. If she has already made the offer to leave some small items over there, just in case she spends the night then it doesnt seem like a big deal. I would say its a step from casual dating, but maybe she still thinks that you guys are not exclusive yet.

Speak with her and see where the relationship is going, or where you want it to go.

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