dolcedolore Posted December 16, 2007 Posted December 16, 2007 This is my first post here, and I apologize because I am sure this will be lengthy. I will start with saying that I am an 18 year old female and in my first year of college. Last Thursday, I met and began to like a 21 year old guy. I met him through my roommate, and all of this took place at his house. Night 1: Around midnight, I decided that I would just stay over there and sleep on the couch. At midnight, everyone had left or gone to bed, so the two of us were given a chance at alone time. We ended up talking until 4:30 am even though we both had 8 am classes the next morning. The next day he texted my roommate to make sure that I got home alright, got to class on time, said that I was a pretty girl, and asked if I would come over again next Thursday (when they have a party/chill night). Night 2: My roommate and I were very bored, it was a Monday and neither of us had classes the next day, so we decided to go over to his house. We both ended up drinking a lot, which is very new to me. The entire night I was flirting with this guy, he ended up rubbing my back, and we eventually cuddled. I was pretty drunk, and I am sure that most guys would have tried something, but he didn't. Everything was perfect. The next day, he texted my roommate again to see if I had made it home safely. Night 3: Around midnight we went to his room to listen/discuss music (we're both music majors) until 3:30 am. Everything was perfect, or so I thought. Looking back and speaking to my roommate, I realized I had made some key mistakes. I told him that I would be leaving that next day for break, trying to hint at something, and he asked me to lunch the next day with some of his friends to have sushi. Me, being stupid, said that I didn't like sushi, and before I knew it, the conversation turned so far away that I never got the chance to really clarify myself, because I wanted nothing more than to go on a date! It was very late, we were cuddling, and I was deciding whether I wanted to walk home or not, and he tried to get me to sleep with him (non-sexual... I think), or at least in his room. I told him no, and said "you're not my boyfriend," but I don't think I pulled it off the way I wanted to. I was trying to hint at a future possiblity, but I think I made it seem as if he was not good enough to be. I asked him for a blanket, and walked away without really thanking, hugging him, saying good night, or much of anything. He said "so that's it, huh? Well, I'll be in here if you need anything." Morning: I woke up when he came into the living room. I was determined to set something, anything up with him because Dec. 14th was the beginning of our month long break. He seemed really grumpy, and although he responded to everything I said, he was very different. I was very obviously waiting to leave with him, but he was making it awkward. When we were both outside, I said "So... if I were to give you my number, would you call?" And he responded with "No, I'd probably just forget. It's the break time!" So I asked about after the break, and he said something about how he'd still be around at his house. I rolled my eyes and walked back to my dorm (which is a block away). This time, he didn't text my roommate to see if I'd made it home alright. So now I have an entire month to wait and think about this perfect guy, who treated me perfectly until that morning, and have no way to contact him but through my roommate. I really don't know what to do next, if anything, or if it will just amount to nothing. I think this is worth fighting for though, because we have a lot in common, and it's not usual that I can have multiple 4 hour conversations with a guy I barely know. I'd appreciate any insight someone can give me, and thank you.
AriaIncognito Posted December 16, 2007 Posted December 16, 2007 Is it possible he's really shy or inexperienced in dating? Seems like quite an odd response to something pretty minor. Maybe he's not used to going out on a limb and felt really shot down? Maybe after break you can go over there and see if you can reconnect. If not, well then he's got some issues to deal with anyway and I'd say let it go for the time being. Music majors are so dramatic. I should know, I was one lol. Best of luck to you. Hopefully it will all work out.
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