loveinlife Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 We broke up one week ago, her decision. She wants to be friends. says that we can be friends, start from the beginning, and take things slow. She doesn't want to see me right now bc she says i still have feelings and only when i can be her friend we can see each other.. We started out our relationship really fast from the get go, three weeks of knowing each other and have been dating. for 2 months, until last week. It is so hard to see her as a friend than a gf. She says she wants to be single, have fun with her friends.. what should i do? is it the end? this is really bothering me. She has been hanging out with her guy friends and will take vacations with them this holiday. She wont even spend Christmas with me, instead it will be with someone else whom she calls a friend, an the unknown gender, due to information, when i spoke with her three days ago. In doing no contact and will try to heal my inner wounds.. hope i will be okay and over her soon. thx for reading. i haven't spoken to her for 5 days and i awknoledge where our relationship is heading to. I don't plan to talk to her anymore until she comes to me and not take me for granted.
Author loveinlife Posted December 16, 2007 Author Posted December 16, 2007 bumping this up, please leave some comments, thanks =)
Kiahleigh Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 First of all it will almost be impossible to be friends with someone you have feelings for and a past. Its best you don't know whats going on in her life or who shes with meeting and so forth. I think she's not ready for the type of relationship that you want or having fun with friends would also include you. Was she not able to see her friends while ya'll were together?were you holding her back from any thing she wanted to do? To me it sounds like she's moving on don't know if thats with someone else or not but she may wake up one day and she'll want you back and she'll realize that you did truly feel for her, and when this day comes it could be too late. I would keep with the no contact I know its so hard but just stay strong. As everyone keeps telling me time will make this better. I'm also going through it and its rough but we gotta keep strong and keep on. best of luck
Author loveinlife Posted December 17, 2007 Author Posted December 17, 2007 First of all it will almost be impossible to be friends with someone you have feelings for and a past. Its best you don't know whats going on in her life or who shes with meeting and so forth. I think she's not ready for the type of relationship that you want or having fun with friends would also include you. Was she not able to see her friends while ya'll were together?were you holding her back from any thing she wanted to do? To me it sounds like she's moving on don't know if thats with someone else or not but she may wake up one day and she'll want you back and she'll realize that you did truly feel for her, and when this day comes it could be too late. I would keep with the no contact I know its so hard but just stay strong. As everyone keeps telling me time will make this better. I'm also going through it and its rough but we gotta keep strong and keep on. best of luck Thanks for the reply. The feelings of missing her was pretty strong the first week, then the second week was tough, but it does get a little better. She was able to see her friends when we were together. Just sometimes she hangs out with guys that i don't know of, like going to eat or shopping, and that bothers me bc as a bf im suppose to do those things with her. I wish our arguement which sparked her distance didn't exist bc it was so little to begin with but it broke her to pieces and hurted her ego. If only she can forgive me and wants to start fresh, i am willing to give her anything in this world. She was truely a great gf and mistrusted me and felt unappreciated when i told her i tested her, something small and was not meant to hurt her. But it became a big issue to my ex. I hope that she will change her mind and come back soon. right now im going through some withdrawals in missing her, its just those memories and the sex..
oppath Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 Don't blame yourself. It sounds like you may have pushed her away, but chances are she was doing something that made you uncomfortable. I don't know your story. What I do know is that she is unlikely to come back. That sucks for you. But you can't be friends with her. Period. Not until you can look at her with no attraction or desire, dispassionately. It sounds like things started fast. Be wary of that in the future. You will heal. You will cope with this. But right now, give yourself the space you need to heal.
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