johnny47 Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 that is my problem right now. I don't even know how to move on. I'm not super social. I work for myself and I'm in a new state with no friends. So I can't help but dwell. Its sure easier for her . Her new situation came loaded with friends. I try to do things that I enjoyed but I can't find any joy in anything I do now. So most of my time now is spent alone, and when thAt happens I get to thinking again.... I would like to move on but I have serious trust issue's now. Who are you fooling? I can tell you also have some very serious mental problems. When you married her you knew she was broken. You are an ENABLER. To me, it seems that you tried to keep her in a little box with clipped wings and at times opened the lid to see if she would be able to fly out. When she some how crawled out you felt justified in returning her to the box. You married her because you knew she was a reflection of yourself. Immature, whinny, impotent dreamer...She lives in a world of video games, and you live in a world of self pity. DO NOT SEEK OUT ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP BEFORE YOU GET SOME SERIOUS HELP. I might seem harsh to anyone who reads this, anyone who puts suicide (I erased it) in the same paragraph needs cold water poured over them!
johnny47 Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Who are you fooling? I can tell you also have some very serious mental problems. When you married her you knew she was broken. You are an ENABLER. To me, it seems that you tried to keep her in a little box with clipped wings and at times opened the lid to see if she would be able to fly out. When she some how crawled out you felt justified in returning her to the box. You married her because you knew she was a reflection of yourself. Immature, whinny, impotent dreamer...She lives in a world of video games, and you live in a world of self pity. DO NOT SEEK OUT ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP BEFORE YOU GET SOME SERIOUS HELP. I might seem harsh to anyone who reads this, anyone who puts suicide (I erased it) in the same paragraph needs cold water poured over them! Bonethinker, I know I was harsh in writing the things I wrote above but you must think about loving yourself first. I know you want justice but it will come at too great of price if you pursue further contact with your wife. You cannot change what happened in the past by replaying it. You must go see a trained therapist to help you forgive and forget. There is something deep within you that needs attending to.
JustBreathe Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 She is seriously sick, BT. She might even be bipolar. I also think that what you need is some individual counseling or therapy to determine why you let a woman treat you as badly as she did, cheating on you, telling you about it, then doing it again and again. You cannot help her or make her come back. But you can help yourself, figure yourself out.
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