White Flower Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Hi Child of Isis, I have read this thread twice now and cannot find this comment that you posted anywhere from WhoRUKidding: Originally posted by Child of Isis> "Guess who....!??! Please please please... tone down the anger. I am still reeling from last night's escapade. I know you are having issues, but don't come into LS and take it out on the BS's." Quote: Originally Posted by WhoRUKidding WOW Bent, you are a bitter one aren't you. Well, in my opionion yes the W and the H are responsible for making sure the other knows they are loved, wanted and respected. I am betting you never let your husband know any of that so he found it somewhere else. And I am betting you never thought in a million years he even could. I hope you learned a lesson from your neglience to your relationship and hopefully you will be able to find a man who can tolerate you and remain faithful but hopes are looking low on that one sweetie...lol....Mr. Messy Pants? that's an attractive name...I bet he has a few for you too...maybe Mrs. Stick Up Her A$$...Bitter Biya...Maybe Mrs. All By Her Dang Self? I bet he has a few stories to tell about your charming personality..Preaching is for church..this forum is for lovers Where did you find this post?
OWoman Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 I have read this thread twice now and cannot find this comment that you posted anywhere from WhoRUKidding Looks like those of us in different time zones missed a fair bit of action!
White Flower Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Looks like those of us in different time zones missed a fair bit of action! Does that mean it was deleted?
Citizen Erased Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Does that mean it was deleted? Was this the same woman from yesterday whose thread was deleted cos she gave all sorts of information out about her MM's family?
OWoman Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Does that mean it was deleted? Looks that way! Perhaps someone who was around can fill in some of the blanks?
OWoman Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Was this the same woman from yesterday whose thread was deleted cos she gave all sorts of information out about her MM's family? That's pretty risky! Was she being mean or just stupid?
child_of_isis Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Evidently it was deleted. It was the same person who gave out personal info. She was on NF's butt in another thread. Someone keeps alerting my posts. I think I have a stalker ;-) My posts are never alerted when I am defending an OW, just a BS. Just to let everyone know...I am not a BS, but I think the BS's have inside info on what goes on in a cheaters head/home....and I think their input is valuable to OW's. It may piss off the OW's but they usually see the truth eventually.
OWoman Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Evidently it was deleted. It was the same person who gave out personal info. She was on NF's butt in another thread. Someone keeps alerting my posts. I think I have a stalker ;-) My posts are never alerted when I am defending an OW, just a BS. Just to let everyone know...I am not a BS, but I think the BS's have inside info on what goes on in a cheaters head/home....and I think their input is valuable to OW's. It may piss off the OW's but they usually see the truth eventually. Tx CoI. For the record - I'm not too fazed at labels (BS, OW, etc) but what does make my "alert" finger itch are posters who literally have nothing to add to a thread but want to use the opportunity to take another poster down, because of their own unresolved issues. Some of those are BS, some are OW, and occasionally arb others (anyone remember Jinnah??) I'm glad you've found a pattern in your alerted posts - mine seem pretty random and I've found that sometimes you can break every rule and no one minds, other times the most minor deviation stirs Tony from his lair depending on whose hormones got ruffled enough that day to press the button. I've stopped trying to figure it out and now just sit back and watch it like a movie. This thread can't really be jacked, I suppose, since the original purpose was a little unclear and the OP herself had steered some of the more interesting diversions, but apologies nonetheless Lizzie for this meander on your thread!
OWoman Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Thanks, btw Owman, are you a genius or what? You seem to know everything about everything! Maybe I'm still a teenager at heart - don't they know everything? :p
White Flower Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Maybe I'm still a teenager at heart - don't they know everything? :p Lol, yes I suppose you're right about that. But it does amaze me how much you seem to know about random subjects such as automobiles and Islam. You keep me on my toes.
White Flower Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Evidently it was deleted. It was the same person who gave out personal info. She was on NF's butt in another thread. Someone keeps alerting my posts. I think I have a stalker ;-) My posts are never alerted when I am defending an OW, just a BS. Just to let everyone know...I am not a BS, but I think the BS's have inside info on what goes on in a cheaters head/home....and I think their input is valuable to OW's. It may piss off the OW's but they usually see the truth eventually. What does "alerting my posts" mean? Should I be grateful that I haven't been alerted? lol.
GreenEyedLady Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 What does "alerting my posts" mean? Should I be grateful that I haven't been alerted? lol. It means if you against LS guidelines you get flagged, an infraction or banned in some cases... If you stay within guidelines, you're fine... If you're rude, nasty or off-topic and someone reports you, then you get flagged, etc...
Citizen Erased Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 It means if someone doesn't like what you have to say, they complain and you get flagged and warned to behave. Someone didn't like the fact that I said we have a license to do everything except have children. Not really. The mods can notice it by themselves, it doesn't necessarily take someone to report you.
Gwyneth Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 It went badly, quickly. She was a little off though. Her story kept changing and then she would get nice, then nasty again. I don't get why I keep hearing all bs are bitter. Hurt yes, bitter, not all. Who is "she?" The one whom you quoted? Yeah, I think it must be her since she personally attacked you. To be honest bent, I think you are the most reasonable and most liked BS on this board--at least to me you are the easiest for me to talk to and understand and agree with. Not to mention you are very funny
Gwyneth Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 I saw that whole thing from whorukidding but that was yesterday right before I responded to her. So how come some of you saw it only the night before (Sunday night)? Weird. I'm so confused. Unless I read someone's quote of her?
GreenEyedLady Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Any member can alert...it doesn't mean it was one who quoted you...
White Flower Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Who is "she?" The one whom you quoted? Yeah, I think it must be her since she personally attacked you. To be honest bent, I think you are the most reasonable and most liked BS on this board--at least to me you are the easiest for me to talk to and understand and agree with. Not to mention you are very funny I'm crazy about Bent, too. I feel for her and wish so much she gets over Mr. Messy Pants (there, I said it:p ) and finds someone who she can love even more than him.
White Flower Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 It means if you against LS guidelines you get flagged, an infraction or banned in some cases... If you stay within guidelines, you're fine... If you're rude, nasty or off-topic and someone reports you, then you get flagged, etc... Do you get an email in your control panel like a PM?
GreenEyedLady Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Do you get an email in your control panel like a PM? You'll get a pm with the post and why it's not appropriate...
kchiapet95 Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 I agree with the kind words about bnb. I've received some great advice from her that I really appreciate.
OWoman Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 I agree with the kind words about bnb. I've received some great advice from her that I really appreciate. Well, since this is turning into a fan club, let me also add that although bent and I disagree on some stuff, I also value her warmth, her humanity and caring and her sense of humour. With some of the other BS too, although there are some who seem stuck in hostile mode and unable to see beyond their own issues. Same as some OW, I guess. And I suppose that almost in some weird way brings me back to the original topic of this thread - coming face to face with the W of the MM. I've never really given much (if any) thought to my MM's wife. I've heard nothing good about her ever from anyone but MM, and to the extent I've considered her at all it's been in the context of the damage she's done to MM and their kids. I have friends and colleagues who are, and have been, BS and of course I've been sympathetic to their situations but those situations have never defined for me who those people are. They're friends or colleagues (or both) who happen, also, to be BS. Here on LS I've come across people who are defined, in the context of this forum, as BS, and so I've gotten to "know" them in that way with other aspects being secondary. And gotten a whole other view on the world of the BS - how different all the stories and contexts and people are, how nebulous a concept like "blame" is, how constructive or destructive an attitude can be and how valid a viewpoint can be even when it's informed by a situation so contradictory to one's own. Through these other BS I've gained some inkling of insight into what it might be like on the other side - the view my MM's W may construct of the situation and how she may feel about me. It's been a real education! While I may never - depending on where we finally get to settle - come "face to face with my MM's W" in the way Lizzie has, in some small way I've come face to face with her through this forum, both through stories and through people.
OWoman Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 You keep me on my toes. You need to be, for the cha cha cha
kchiapet95 Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 While I may never - depending on where we finally get to settle - come "face to face with my MM's W" in the way Lizzie has, in some small way I've come face to face with her through this forum, both through stories and through people. This is a very interesting point. I can relate to this. I don't ever expect to actually meet his W, and I don't want to, since it's in the past. During the time we were together, I often wondered what she looked like. He described her a certain way but I wanted to know for myself. I don't know what it would've done for me to know though. I was just curious, I guess.
bish Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 I am pretty sure that if I would change my mind about him... then chances are I would probably end up with him... but I don't want him or anyone else... Then, even if the MM doesn't have the decency, why don't you have the decency to leave his M alone if you don't want him? What? Are you just into toying with people's lives and emotions?
bish Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 this might surprise you but I do have sex with men that say they love their wives and are very happy and would never leave them Well this says it all doesn't it?
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