AllieB387 Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 To Start, These fourms are amazing, and to whoever bought this domain and set it up, thank you. In September of 2005, I met Charlie, The girl of my dreams. She was so sweet and she was the first girl to love me for who I was. After a month, we told one another how much we loved each other, and another 2 later, we would joke about marriage and we we're inseperable. At the time I was a Freshman in High school and she was a Junior. Being 2 years apart meant nothing, we we're in the marching band together and never leaft each others sides. We saw each other 3-4 times a week and every day at school. That summer was great as well, as well as all of her senior year. Sure we had alot of problems everyone does, but the biggest one was that we both spent so much time together, we had no other friends, only "buddies" at school. After she graduated, we faced our biggest obsticle, what are we going to do when she goes to College? We decided that she would go to the Community College about 5 miles from where we lived that way, when I graduted, we would be together. She was "flirting around" with other guys the first day she got there. and in October, she was going out with 2 of us, (I had been checking her sent myspace messages, she had given me her password once.) She got really suspicious after September, said she needed time to "figure things out." We split up. And after about 3 weeks I asked her to go with me one night so we could talk about our relationship. Apperently she had made out another girl, gone to a few hardcore parties, and decided she liked that better. I left her in that parking lot and speed away. I was So mad I was ready to kill someone. Now, a month later, I dream of her almost everynight, and I wake up the same way missing her and thinking about the past. I've started to bring my life back together and hang out with my friends more, but I still MISS THE HELL OUT OF HER. I resist the urge to call her, find out unanswered questions, shove in her face all the lies she has told me, but I dont. I relly need some advice on ohw to stop missing her, and stop waking up feeling the way I do. If you have ever read the lyrics to a song called "more that a memory" by:Garth Brooks, Thats how I feel. Can anyone help?
jimmer21 Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 hey i know exsactly what your feeling, thinking and just everything. same boat as me almost except i pushed her away time my freind it WILL get better,i was a mess for like a month and now 2 and half months on now i dont need her i dont feel the urge to ring her life is good again sure i miss her still thinkabout her etc but no where near as much she even rang me andcame to my door drunk one night, i say to you dont goback to tellin her u wwana be with her untill she gives a good hint she does or untill she does it put me right back to square one i went back to askin her to ake me back etc when she came over. i like to think even though how much i love her and how great she is she dissed me and now i need to be a man stop people laughing at me etc. she will get bored of just getting smashed everyday and will probly wan you back but buy then you will probaly moved on and be happy i know how your feeling but dont belive itll be like this for ever it gets better honestly. be strong get out and do single people things enjoy life way to short to mope about like i was doing dam it. youll be fine mate which ever way it goes.
budd98 Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 The best thing to do with young love like that is walk away. That girl needs to explore life and learn what she really wants. I dated a girl like that back in the day for 3 years and she told me she wished she met me like 5 years later in life. I was so in love with her and didn't understand why she wanted to move on. It seemed perfect. Guess what. Almost 5 years later comes and she starts texting and calling ALL the time. Says I am the one, even though she is in a relationship with someone right now. Asks if there is ever a chance I would take her back. I could of done one of 2 things: Play her to mess up her current relationship or say no. Well, I have moved on and don't ever think of her once. It took me like 2 years to get to that stage. Now I just laugh at the thought of her wanting me back so bad, and it not affecting me at all. You will get the same some day. Just let her go and cut all contact. She may come around soon or years down the road. If the relationship was really that good, she will always remember that. Good luck.
sedgwick Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 I hate to tell you this, I really do, but the first year of college is a time of major growing up and figuring out who you are. It will happen to you too. Your world in high school and your world in college are very different. I know you don't want to hear this, but she's doing exactly what she should be doing. Her behavior is, unfortunately, totally age-appropriate. She's doing what she should be at 18 years old. Also...there is NO EXCUSE, EVER, for snooping in someone else's myspace/email/phone! I once ended a relationship just because I found out he'd read my email. I couldn't trust him after that. As far as I'm concerned, that alone is grounds for a justifiable breakup.
changchewsoon Posted December 16, 2007 Posted December 16, 2007 I am sorry to hear this happened to you, but you really have to stop snooping around her emails etc. What you should do is implement NC and let fate work out the rest. Good luck!
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