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Am I obsessed, in love, or just mentally unstable?


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My girlfriend and I broke up about two weeks ago. We started talking again and starting hanging out with each other again. I noticed that she still has all of our homecoming pictures that were taken together up and in her room. When I saw that for the first time, my heart just skipped a beat because maybe it is not over completely like I thought it was. I still remember though one night we were sitting on the couch talking and making kissy face and out of no where she said I love you and I still remember that exact statement and everything because it lingers in my mind constantly and I can't forget it. After she said that I had to do a reality check because I never heard that before and it is like.......

 

This is where I have issues come in. I always dream about her not like sexual dreams but like things we did together, when we laughed, and just in general things that made me feel good as a person. I have these dreams about like 3-4 times a week and they seem to get stronger.

 

If someone could tell me or at least give a general thing of what is going on between us and from her perspective exactly the same thing to.

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I always dream about...general things that made me feel good as a person.

 

It could be that right now you want to feel good as a person and, through your dreams (subconscious), you are accomplishing that.

Dreams aren't indications of obsession or mental instability - our conscious thoughts do a better job of that ;).

 

From your post, you guys appear to be in the middle of getting used to being broken-up. There's that line from 'Seinfeld' -- "the first break-up never sticks" -- it is true for most. So maybe you'll get back together for a short or long time, and maybe you won't.

 

But IMO, whether single or in a relationship, it really helps if you can feel good as a person on your own, without being needy and putting the burden on someone else to always be "validating" you - that can really drain the other person/people in your life. Best of luck.

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