Trialbyfire Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 It's over.... I talked to his sister, she was shocked when I showed her the conversation between him and Brittany. She was even more so shocked that he lied to her and her husband, trying to make me look like I am overreacting whereas I am not. It's kind of sinking in now... I feel horrible. What's one more lie between SOs? He doesn't deserve you, sweetie. You're a nice person who deserves to be treated much, much better. This can only make you stronger. You know you've got the right stuff inside of you, to pull yourself out. You're adorable, judging by your pics. I know it doesn't feel this way now, but you will find someone else, someone who will make you look back and say, "what the hell did I ever see in that loser?".
Author blondie_xo Posted December 15, 2007 Author Posted December 15, 2007 What's one more lie between SOs? He doesn't deserve you, sweetie. You're a nice person who deserves to be treated much, much better. This can only make you stronger. You know you've got the right stuff inside of you, to pull yourself out. You're adorable, judging by your pics. I know it doesn't feel this way now, but you will find someone else, someone who will make you look back and say, "what the hell did I ever see in that loser?". Thankyou... That means a lot. I wrote him a nice email.... I just want to start off by saying I thought you were better than this. You certainly seem to think you are, but in reality, you’re not. You’re pathetic, and a sad excuse for being so “mature and grown up”. I don’t even know where to begin. Life to you is all about money. You and your money… Money this, money that. It’s not everything Jon. You can have all the money in the world, but in the end, you decided to slowly eliminate our relationship over it. I knew you were a cheap son of a bitch to begin with, but I thought better of you to be this much of an inconsiderate jerk! When I said we need to compromise, and you immediately jumped to saying, “I put money into the relationship- you don’t. You need to start compromising with me,” that made me realize something that I have been denying. You’re true colours are starting to show through, and they’re not clashing well with mine. I don’t think money should overrule love. You let it though. So I’ll let you be, you and your money, and your car. I wasn’t a priority to you, you even said it yourself. I was only an option. If there’s something that you taught me Jon, it’s that you could never love me more than yourself and your money. I realized you love yourself more than you could ever love me. You also said if you have money- you’re happy. Well, you still have money, so I guess you’re set. But the one thing you don’t have anymore… is me. In your view though, I put nothing into the relationship. All those nights while you were in Winnipeg I spent sitting by the computer waiting for you to come online just to talk to you… for you to go out anyways bitching that all I did was make you made anyways? I gave up a lot of things just for you, and you don’t even realize that. I won’t even begin to even talk about some of the things I did just for you and I… because now I realize it was all a waste. You even said it yourself; you and I are on different levels. Sorry, but I’m not wasting any more of my time waiting for you to step up to mine. You’re too caught up in your own world, it’s so sad. You think you’re always in the right, never the wrong. Sorry to be the one to break the ice, but you’re not always right, you’re not always going to get what you want, and you need to understand that I was not the only one who needed to grow up. We both did. We both needed to; but you thought it was just me who was ****ing everything up. I’m glad I’m better than that, to realize that I don’t deserve this. I deserve someone who will support me, whether I’m right or wrong; be there for me; comfort me; tell me that they NEED me; show me affection and love; not complain 24/7 that all I do is make them broke; not be controlling over my money and actions; someone who can see other things in life aside dollar signs and someone who loves me for me; doesn’t tell me I need to grow up, or that I don’t care for myself or my future. I don’t deserve that, so I am taking a stand and telling you that we are through. You lied to me…and lied again. The trust in this relationship is completely gone. You said it was a last minute decision to stay at Amy’s. The conversation was the day before Jon. You can’t sweet talk yourself out of this one. Your sister and Tyler and I talked about it, and they were shocked that you even lied to them. You’re a sad excuse for the man you like to think you are. You like to think you’re all grown up and perfect, you’re still just a little boy. An insecure, caught up in himself, little boy. You have a lot of growing up to do, as I do. In order for that to happen though, I have to move on. If you’re thinking of replying with some more last minute sad excuses that your puny thoughtless mind cooks up- don’t bother. Waste of your time, and mine. I don’t want to hear them. Please come get your stuff from my place, latest Sunday night. If it’s still there when I get home Sunday night from work, it’ll have a first class ticket right out my window. Bye. I thought it was straight to the point... I feel kinda better now.
KenzieAbsolutely Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 i am sure you feel you got your point across, but you're making it so much about the money that your point is lost. in my opinion, it should be have been more broad, basically that you're not putting up with his lying and misplaced priorities anymore.
mortensorchid Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 Honey, that guy has been with that other woman, and it wasn't platonic. If you're ok with this, you're entitled. When you're in a long distance relationship like you have been, people change and move on, and the distance gives both parties opportunity to play around without the other party knowing. I think you should reevaluate the situation. If you really were as ok with the situation as you say you are, would you asking others what they think here or elsewhere? Just an observation ...
Author blondie_xo Posted December 15, 2007 Author Posted December 15, 2007 Honey, that guy has been with that other woman, and it wasn't platonic. If you're ok with this, you're entitled. When you're in a long distance relationship like you have been, people change and move on, and the distance gives both parties opportunity to play around without the other party knowing. I think you should reevaluate the situation. If you really were as ok with the situation as you say you are, would you asking others what they think here or elsewhere? Just an observation ... I might have said I was ok or came across that I was ok... But Im actually not... Ive been with him for 11 months and we've been through alot. And I dont know why I kept letting every little thing slide...and finally I've just had enough.... I was afraid of letting go.. afraid of the what ifs and the might haves... But now I realize that I deserve much better.
Author blondie_xo Posted December 15, 2007 Author Posted December 15, 2007 i am sure you feel you got your point across, but you're making it so much about the money that your point is lost. in my opinion, it should be have been more broad, basically that you're not putting up with his lying and misplaced priorities anymore. the money partt was a HUGE issue... it defintely played a role in our relationship. our relationship was based on dollar bills. i didn't explain half of the money situation in here as it would take me forever.... all he cares about is money. he has an issue with money. his family is even concerned... & this recent issue to arise with brittany and amy was basically the last button.... i'm not going to put up with his b/s anymore.
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