stepheine Posted December 14, 2007 Posted December 14, 2007 I was just wondering if anyone had any thoughts on this matter: I have not really talked to me ex boyfriend much in 2 weeks. I do miss him a little although I am not devastated without him. When we were together I felt like everything was great. It was a short lived relationship (5 months) but a good 5 months. I do miss him..... It is like he does not want to talk with me though. I emailed him on Tuesday after not speaking with him for a week (the first week) for some closure. He said the same thing he said a week prior, that he ended the relationship because he needs to figure out things for himself right now. Origionally he told me he needed space, but then not understanding what that meant I guess I pestered him and he ended things with me. He said when I am around I cloud everything. He has not attempted to call me once in this time, and I have had not contact with him. Is this a nice way to tell a girl you just are not interested? Am I foolish to think at this point I may hear from him again (I mean it has been 2 weeks today)? Is he probably seeing someone else? When a man goes into his cave I thought that meant for a couple of hours or a day or two tops!!! tuesday before I emailed him I tried calling him, he did not answer his phone but he replied to my email. I have left him alone since and plan on just leaving him alone. There is a part of me that wishes things could go back to where they were but only if he wants it to b/c I do not want to get into something he is not 100% into as well esp. since now I am not crying anymore and feel better. Thanks
stillafool Posted December 14, 2007 Posted December 14, 2007 I'm glad you aren't crying anymore. He has definitely broke up with you and has given you the reasons. I think that's all the closure you are going to get. It doesn't sound like he is still interested in you and I didn't say that to hurt you. I wouldn't worry about whether he has another girl or not because that will just cause you more pain. Don't call him anymore and move on with your life. He has told you what he wants, let him have it - freedom.
Author stepheine Posted December 14, 2007 Author Posted December 14, 2007 Well I spoke with him today and I feel it went well. He seemed interested in what I have been doing, and how I am. He told me he is going to take care of a bunch of things he needs to do this weekend. And I told him I miss him, that I wanted to say hi to him, and see how he was doing. He told me he figured I missed him because he misses me to. Whatever!!! I told him to have a good weekend and he told me I'll hear from him soon. Sounded pretty positive but I don't know if I want to be hurt or put myself back into the situation or maybe he isn't even wanting me back. who knows but I am glad he is doing well, and I spoke to him. I do not like the fact that I am the one who initiated the contact though.
vivrantflo Posted December 14, 2007 Posted December 14, 2007 Unfortunately.. 95% of the time when someone says that they have to "figure things out" or they "need space" there's another person involved.. It sucks, but it's true. Try to cut off contact with him, like the previous poster said. Use the time to get over him. If he wants to contact you again, he knows where to find you. But try not to count on that for your own sake. Good luck!
LakesideDream Posted December 14, 2007 Posted December 14, 2007 It's a BF/GF relationship. Once in awhile GF/BF's stick and turn into long term relationships. Most often they fade, and we find others and the cycle continues. If a woman says "I need space" men are supposed to honor that. When a man does it.. well it's usually sarcasm, however true. Closure for one person is often just irritation to the other.
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