abeliever Posted December 14, 2007 Posted December 14, 2007 Confused, you and I are so much alike you are so right. My H ex OW is pregnant also. Although he won't know if it is his til summer. But you have to hang in there. You can do this NC thing. It is him who is flipping why else would he have called and said that? He is feeling guilty and I am sure she is not aware of H calling you! But can you go back? Knowing what you know now? I am sure you wouldn't. This is the first stage and yes it is very hard and it really sucks. We have been there. But it does get easier. Not sure how you will come out on the other side but you do get thru it. That I know for sure. Cheer up. So many others going thru so much worse. When I get to feeling bad I remember there is someone who lost a H or a daughter or son. It makes me realize however bad things are, mine are not that bad. Hope this helps. Your sister in LS abeliever
Author Confused9 Posted December 14, 2007 Author Posted December 14, 2007 Confused, he may still care, but not enough to leave his OW for you. He's trying to relieve his guilt a little. Wants a kind word from you so he doesn't feel like such a p.o.s. Of course you still love him, it takes a long time to let go when you love someone. That doesn't mean he loves you back or you should be with him. IGNORE IT COMPLETELY. Move on. He has. Sorry to be so blunt, I know it hurts, but he has a baby with another woman and he is living with her. He has moved on. He isn't living with her. He is living in a hotel because he is in her state for work. He lives here...but he may be moving there. Your right though...he did move on (Gulp!) I still think he wants to be with me...how stupid am I?
Author Confused9 Posted December 14, 2007 Author Posted December 14, 2007 Confused, you and I are so much alike you are so right. My H ex OW is pregnant also. Although he won't know if it is his til summer. But you have to hang in there. You can do this NC thing. It is him who is flipping why else would he have called and said that? He is feeling guilty and I am sure she is not aware of H calling you! But can you go back? Knowing what you know now? I am sure you wouldn't. This is the first stage and yes it is very hard and it really sucks. We have been there. But it does get easier. Not sure how you will come out on the other side but you do get thru it. That I know for sure. Cheer up. So many others going thru so much worse. When I get to feeling bad I remember there is someone who lost a H or a daughter or son. It makes me realize however bad things are, mine are not that bad. Hope this helps. Your sister in LS abeliever Thanks Abeliever. i hope I can figure out how to come out on top of this. I miss him so bad. I just wish he was calling me becasue he wanted to be with me...not because of guilt or whatever. I hate to thin he is in love with OW. It kills me!
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