fray718 Posted December 14, 2007 Posted December 14, 2007 Quick question to those who wait 1-2 months or until things are exclusive until having sex...so do you still go over to the guy's place or sleep over? I mean just make out and sleep over, no fooling around and no sex? Or do you just not stay over at each other's places until you decide to have sex? I can't imagine having sex with someone until at least 2 months of dating but not sure if it's gonna be weird to just sleep together in the same bed and not have sex. Advice greatly appreciated.
Trialbyfire Posted December 14, 2007 Posted December 14, 2007 Unless I'm prepared to put out, I don't go to a guy's place, who I'm dating. Not even for dinner.
Star Gazer Posted December 14, 2007 Posted December 14, 2007 Yes. I slept at BF's place at least 8 - 9 times before we did the deed.
melodymatters Posted December 14, 2007 Posted December 14, 2007 Yeah, I think it's an age thing. In my 30's and now at 40, I have had no problem with establishing a close relationship where we could " crash' together without me worrying about giving mixed messages or being presured for sex. .....I don't think that would have worked in my teens or twenties though !
Star Gazer Posted December 14, 2007 Posted December 14, 2007 Yes. I slept at BF's place at least 8 - 9 times before we did the deed. Maybe not that many. 6?
compassion42 Posted December 14, 2007 Posted December 14, 2007 I think that if you want to stand by your desire to save sex for when your relationship is exclusive, then spending the night really isn't the best idea. Also, the guy may think you're being a tease if you get in bed and fool around with them but won't have sex.
Dynamo Posted December 14, 2007 Posted December 14, 2007 Unless I'm prepared to put out, I don't go to a guy's place, who I'm dating. Not even for dinner. I think that is the best policy. If I invited a girl to my place after dark, thats pretty much the "golden invitation". If your not willing to put out best not to go to his house, or else he may feel you are teasing him / jerking him around.
Trialbyfire Posted December 14, 2007 Posted December 14, 2007 I think that is the best policy. If I invited a girl to my place after dark, thats pretty much the "golden invitation". If your not willing to put out best not to go to his house, or else he may feel you are teasing him / jerking him around. Exactly. There's zero chance of misunderstanding, this way.
Racquel Colette Posted December 14, 2007 Posted December 14, 2007 I don't agree. I have had men invite me to dinner and it wasn't assumed we would be intimate. We were dating and he wanted to make me dinner. That doesn't = sexual intimacy expected or assumed at all.
beachlover Posted December 14, 2007 Posted December 14, 2007 My current bf stayed at my place several times over a 6 month time frame with out having sex. He knew up front that I was a virgin at the time and that I wasn't going to have sex until I was sure that I wanted to. He wasn't a virgin and said that some nights it was all he could do to not just go home at the risk of offending me. Looking back now, I don't know how he did it, we would fool around a lot and stop just short of sex.
Mezzi Posted December 14, 2007 Posted December 14, 2007 Unless I'm prepared to put out, I don't go to a guy's place, who I'm dating. Not even for dinner. Exactly!!!! If you know you are not ready to have sex do not go over to a guy's house. Its their territory and who knows what might happen once you end up going over there.
Carmen87 Posted December 14, 2007 Posted December 14, 2007 I have just crashed in a boyfriends bed before, without anything sexual happening. I wasn't ready and they understood that. It was nice to just be close.
melodymatters Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 I have just crashed in a boyfriends bed before, without anything sexual happening. I wasn't ready and they understood that. It was nice to just be close. Right ! I think, like i said, it's age related, as well as intelligence related. Not to be judgemental, but if we are talking about a ...say..37 yr old guy, he should be SO into you, for YOU, and had enough cheap sex in his lifetime, that "getting some" that night is just not worth perhaps ruining things between you. You know, I've been hard on my ex's, but in retrospect, this is one thing I never had to worry about. We were always happy just to be together at first, make breakfast and hug. They were all of them very patient.
LaughMachine Posted December 16, 2007 Posted December 16, 2007 I think it all has to do with the moment and how caught up in the moment you are. Infatuation can be hard to resist which is why sleeping over their house isn't such a good idea...unless your drunk. lol
AriaIncognito Posted December 16, 2007 Posted December 16, 2007 I dont think I've ever stayed at HIS place before having sex. I have had a bf stay here at my place but they knew it didn't mean we were doing it. It meant, it's late, and you shouldn't drive home because youre tired. Doesn't happen very many times before we actually do the deed. I think waiting a month is plenty for me. I can usually tell if it'll go somewhere by then. My last relationship is the longest I've waited, and it was because HE made ME wait. Fool. lol People told me that was reg flag number one hahaha. A guy making a girl wait.
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