crazyinlove123 Posted December 14, 2007 Posted December 14, 2007 This is my first post, hopefully you guys can help me out. I'm a 23 year old college graduate living back at home, working and applying to grad school. I just came out of a 1.5 year relationship with a boy that my parents absolutely hated. I'm an Indian American, and for those who can relate, know that there are a lot of strict rules about dating in Indian families. Basically my parents did not like him because of these things (which I think were absurd at the time) : 1) he's not the same religion as me 2) he's 5 months younger than me 3) He's not a vegetarian. I come from a very hardcore religious family and when my parents found out about it, WWIII seriously erupted at my house! no joke! I'm sure ure thinking, "she's 23 years old! she can do whatever she wants!" right? If only that is true, I mean I love my parents and I want them to also love who I love. After all that happened, I realized how important my family is and how important my religion is to me. I've seen many interfaith marriages, but it's so hard to overcome many of the problems they have to face in their future. So, now that u know the history... now to my problem: I'm pretty much over this boy, but at times I wonder what "what couldve happened" But anyways, this past thanksgiving, I went down to GA for a wedding where I met this boy. He's 24 (yay! he's older), same religion as me! (another plus) and he's a vegetarian! (I know, potential husband!!) I realllly am into this guy and because there was so many things going on during the wedding (Indian weddings last like 3-4 days!) that i didnt really get a chance to talk to him and get to know him. Before I left, I told him to add me on facebook so we can keep in touch. So he did, and we've emailed each other but it hasnt come to a point where I'm able to talk to him on a personal level. Do you think that just takes time? or are boys just like that? He responds to my email like every 4-5 days. Is that normal? He hasnt asked me for my number and I feel like i don't talk to him as much..he rarely goes on any sort of chatting program (AIM, GCHAT, yahoo, etc) I mean this guy is the PERFECT guy and I don't know what to do.
Yosef Posted December 14, 2007 Posted December 14, 2007 Yeah, sometimes guys can be really slow. Wow, your family really is pretty strict it's godda be pretty hard to find a guy like that, but apparently you have! Congradulations! Unfortunately, there's not much you can do to make him respond to you faster, so I would be patient with him. Of course, it's hard to tell if he's really interested in you, but keep an open mind and be ready for him to reply quicker, or at least ask him why he doesn't reply so much. That might give you an answer and take the worry-load off of your mind.
Author crazyinlove123 Posted December 14, 2007 Author Posted December 14, 2007 yeah. our family is hardcore like that. haha actually i did ask him why i never "see him online" and he replied that he usually just goes on gmail to check his email and rarely chats depending on where he is and at work he never chats. he said he's been busy with work. so i dunno if he's really saying he's busy or jus doesnt want to talk I'm not sure if he has a gf.. (i dont think he does) but i dunno if there's a way to ask him?? None of my friends know him that well to know about his love life. I think it would be sorta awkard just to ask "so... do u have a gf?" haha. he never brought it up, so i guess that means he doesnt? ahhh so confused.
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