Phateless Posted December 16, 2007 Posted December 16, 2007 I actually thought when he said that it was a joke (we were texting back and forth). It never occured to me that he was serious! We joke around all the time so I just assumed this was one of those times. it's possible he has a date with someone else on sunday and the ex knew about that also. tough to say. you did notice her comment legitimately, but asking still makes you look needy. it sounds like you want to be exclusive and he doesn't, am i right?
Star Gazer Posted December 16, 2007 Posted December 16, 2007 I agree JB. There is another thread on here about facebook, and its basically the same thing. Its too easy to misinterpret things written online, and far too easy to obsess about things. Its also too tempting to check up on your BF/ex/their ex etcs every single move, which I find a little creepy TBH. SB knows I obsess over MySpace too, so I understand the OP's paranoia. All I can advise is to stay faaaaaaaar away from your guy's MySpace page because you'll find yourself actively looking for problems.
Author AugustLane Posted December 17, 2007 Author Posted December 17, 2007 it's possible he has a date with someone else on sunday and the ex knew about that also. tough to say. you did notice her comment legitimately, but asking still makes you look needy. it sounds like you want to be exclusive and he doesn't, am i right? Actually... I posted this a couple of days ago in panic mode, but after having given it a good bit of thought I have decided that I don't care. Yes, maybe I'm jealous that he has a date (if he does), but it's only because I don't have one! No, I don't want to be exclusive- I just happen to have limited options right now. He is the only guy I'm dating because I haven't had other offers. It's no big deal. I don't see him being a long term prospect anyway, so I'll just have fun untill the next one comes along. But thank you sooo much to all who have offered advice!
JCD Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 In another words you would use him for selfish reasons. Why do you not value yourself and be above this? Are you that insecure that you would chase after a bone if a guy threw it your way? Why must you have a guy who you don't see future with? What's the point? You are only going to get hurt and any issues you have now will only grow from this. Think about it.
maynicholas Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 In another words you would use him for selfish reasons. Why do you not value yourself and be above this? Are you that insecure that you would chase after a bone if a guy threw it your way? Why must you have a guy who you don't see future with? What's the point? You are only going to get hurt and any issues you have now will only grow from this. Think about it. Maybe I'm biased because I'm in a similar situation (minus the he-has -a-date thing) but I don't see anything wrong with this. I don't think it's insecurity as much as empowerment. It feels great to realize you can casually date without getting wrapped up in emotions.
Lucky555 Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 I agree if this guy has another date, OUCH! I guess it depends, I mean if he didn't see anything in you with the date he had with you, why would he need to date someone else? I don't get it, he should just be honest and say well I am dating other people too. Or i guess you could do the same but don't waste your time and i really hope you don't get hurt.
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