Slippy72 Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 So my ex and I both agreed we wanted each other back after having a really long phone call two weeks ago. Since then though, she's gone totally quiet, no messages or anything (compared to every few days saying 'I miss you so much' etc). To make it worse, I found out she's having something of a 'fling' with this other guy that may or may not turn into a relationship. Literally two weeks ago we had a talk for a few hours about how we miss each other, and she came out with all this stuff how no other guy will be like me etc. Of course I still want her back so much, so this is really hurting. So how do I act in a situation like this? Do you think she was telling the truth? I'm normally good at acting in the appropriate ways and knowing when to initiate contact and when not too, but right now I'm totally confused. Thanks in advance...
Author Slippy72 Posted December 13, 2007 Author Posted December 13, 2007 I know it hasn't been long, but it's just I'm really tearing myself up over this.
CalamitousJane Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Oh Slippy, that's got to be so tough. I think the best thing to do is think loving thoughts toward her, and give her all the space in the world. If I were you I'd mainly be in the fetal position on the floor right now. Hang in there!
Author Slippy72 Posted December 13, 2007 Author Posted December 13, 2007 Do I go 'hard to get'? Or do I reassure her of my feelings? Arghhhh
frd150 Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Hey Slippy, If she is still playing around with this guy then what she said means nothing. Actions speak louder than words. If shes in to make it work with you then she needs to show you. Sorry to sound so bleek but like everyone says if they want you then they will go after it...maybe. Some are scared but like I said if there is another player involved then what she said means nothing to you. Is there a way to confirm her status? Is this just rumor? I would say that for now continue on the healing path, treat this like a bump.
Author Slippy72 Posted December 13, 2007 Author Posted December 13, 2007 Kind of a rumour. They're not together, been on a few dates etc. I'm definitely losing her though, which I don't want to do. For the past few weeks I've been (politely) ignoring her, trying to make sure any contact was initiated by her. But for the first time in a while it seems I'm doing the wrong thing, maybe by playing hard to get I've given the impression I wasn't intrested? I don't know.
frd150 Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Kind of a rumour. They're not together, been on a few dates etc. I'm definitely losing her though, which I don't want to do. For the past few weeks I've been (politely) ignoring her, trying to make sure any contact was initiated by her. But for the first time in a while it seems I'm doing the wrong thing, maybe by playing hard to get I've given the impression I wasn't intrested? I don't know. Its hard to tell what she might be thinking. Dude let me tell you how many hours I sat around speculating. You cant. Ask yourself this : How would you be affected if you contacted her and sorta in a nice way called her out on it and you got a different answer from a person that was not the same at the one in that long conversation? Realise that you made your intentions clear in that conversation. She knows where your heart is so I would bet that she knows that your still interested. My gut tells me that this is kinda a match of wills (unitentionally). Whos gonna break first? How did that conversation end?
thelegend Posted December 14, 2007 Posted December 14, 2007 Brother Slippy I know this is hard but if she wants you let her come get you. If she is still playing the field then I'd allow her to. That shows that nothing she said was true she may miss you but if she really wanted you nothing would keep her from you. Think about it like this if it were you that had women all over you but you really wanted her would those other girls stop you?
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