GuidanceDMS Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Ok, I have never had to deal with this before since I turned 18. I am 23. Recently this high school girl who is 16 has been texting me non-stop & calling as well. She lets me know she is really into me and that we need to "hang out" .... she is a sweet girl. ... now I have all but given up on currently pursuing the other lady I was into, who is 20...because she is just not into dating someone right now...so i am backing off. How weird does 23 guy and 16 girl sound, 7 years difference. Age of consent in Ohio is 16 but I am not even gonna go there, I don't feel comfortable unless we are both 18 or older to do anything intimate. What should I tell her? I know how girls this age like to have "older boyfriends" to brag about, I am almost done with college btw. They just aren't mature enough at 16 in my opinion for a "real" relationship.
white_lilac Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 The legal age may be 16, but the morality is at least 18. I think you already know the choice that you should be making. She is far too young to understand the whole age thing and she is probably looking at you as "the older guy". You need to let her know that she should call you in a couple years. As far as "hanging out", I think we all know where that leads to. Her being 16, she has a fairy tale picture of the two of you. You being 23, have better ideas of what life is. Is this a girl that you really want to hurt. You're both pretty young to be talking "long term", let her know, that you are not willing to take advantage of her young and vulnerable mind. If you do "hang" with her, I hope for your sake she doesn't have any older brothers or a brawling father or uncles.
Author GuidanceDMS Posted December 13, 2007 Author Posted December 13, 2007 The legal age may be 16, but the morality is at least 18. I think you already know the choice that you should be making. She is far too young to understand the whole age thing and she is probably looking at you as "the older guy". You need to let her know that she should call you in a couple years. As far as "hanging out", I think we all know where that leads to. Her being 16, she has a fairy tale picture of the two of you. You being 23, have better ideas of what life is. Is this a girl that you really want to hurt. You're both pretty young to be talking "long term", let her know, that you are not willing to take advantage of her young and vulnerable mind. If you do "hang" with her, I hope for your sake she doesn't have any older brothers or a brawling father or uncles. Thanks, those are some great things to say. Not willing to take advantage and she doesn't understand the age thing in her eyes...the words I couldn't quite put together besides "you are 16, and not mature and don't know what you want". I agree I don't feel comfortable unless a girl is at least 18. Every single one of my friends told me to ditch them last night for her....the 16 thing to them was "no big deal". I'm like that isn't me and anyways I don't even know her or have any sort of feelings besides thinking she is pretty. They just stare in awe and amazement and tell me to tell her to call them... my friends are pigs. I'm still the good guy.
Jilly Bean Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Most guys at 23 complain women at 23 aren't mature enough for them, so I couldn't imagine a 16 year old. But more importantly, these 7 years between you are HUGE. I couldn't imagine what you could have in common with her at that age. I remember the 23 year old guys who were interested in my crew when we were 16. And let me tell ya, it wasn't because they wanted to hear what was new in geometry class, or what happened when Nick and Laura decided to share a locker. Whole different world you're dealing with...
Love_Lifee Posted December 16, 2007 Posted December 16, 2007 uhh i do not know.. when i met my boyfriend he was 19 turning soon 20 and i had just turned 16. we have been together for a year if anything he is the immature one. we are perfect for eachother. i am now 17 and he will be 21 in march and i won`t be 18 until august..but if she really likes you for you and not the fact that you are "older" then you two should hit it off pretty good. i ove my boyfriend and we have been planning out our future together since the first day we met. maybe you should just take it slow with her considering the age difference. but if she is the right one then nature will take it`s course..
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