geminni Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 hello everyone, i am once again turning to you for your much appriciated advice. here is a recent situation. There is this girl at my work. so we started to get friendly went for innocent coffees talked, and so on. one could say i figured there were positives vibes. so asked here out for a weekend 'cause i know she is all busy during a week and all. and i have been getting answers in sense " not possible to busy, already plans, have dance competition ..." so i figured i would chill out a little, let it out open. so yesterday i sent her a message, how about this weekend, pointing out that i wanted her to not make other plans:) so i got this kind of answer this morning: ""sorry for late reply, i just got home very late. the thing is not that you have to reserve me it is just that weekends are for things that there is no time for during a work week, it is not like we don't see each other almost every day ( during a working week - my comment ). no offense and regards"". In my pasive mode i am looking at this like a " i am not interested " answer. or am I wrong. any ideas how shall i proceed? shall i back off or just wait for her to make next step, if even? thank you for your answers, best regards
BlueEyedGirl Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Sigh. She is sooo 200% not interested. How can you not see that?
Author geminni Posted December 13, 2007 Author Posted December 13, 2007 just clear out, when i asked her first time it was like : lets hang out on a weekend. Ok when? i'm gonna call you and we can set a day. then i called and she apologized saying she is busy with studying. How can you be sure if sometimes all that is need is an open answer ( dont worry about what other person would think of you, just be honest )
Ariadne Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Hi, weekends are for things that there is no time for during a work week, it is not like we don't see each other almost every day That means she has enough of you at work. She's not interested. Ariadne
LoveLace Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Ouch. Clearly not interested. That first time she acted a little enthused was probably just to be nice. Then she told you in the nicest way possible that she just isn't interested...sorry
Jilly Bean Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Sorry. She is saying she's not interested. BUT, the good thing here, is that now you know this, so rather than spend more energy on her, you can go find someone appropriate to date! So, there is a good side of this...
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