Bemused gal Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Hi...after breaking up with my X and going through a dry spell..its suddenly raining men. What do people look for when they choose someone they want to be with? When do you decide..yes this is the one you want to be with. Has anyone just been casually dating and suddenly decided: ahah. this is the one. (1) The X: I don't really have any feelings for him any longer..except that I am very sentimental and treasure the good times we had. He has done a 180 degree change, is very attentive, try to do all the things I complained about, and is now doing an oil painting of me..which I still have to figure how to reject because he won't take no for an answer. (2) Boy 2: Quiet, polite, incredibly smart, but with a unique sense of humor. I really have a great time with him and laugh alot. He is incredibly sweet, he spends time with me, carries furniture for me, takes me out, makes plans on weekends, tells me when he's not going to be with me, does goofy things with me that kids do but doesn't care. is always on time. Calls me. Could not really ask for anything more. (3) Boy 3: flaky, incredibly charming with a winning smile. But good hearted at the end of the day. When we go out its loads of fun. Then he disappears and I don't hear from him for weeks, and then he pops up again. I'm pretty nonchalant about him appearing and disappearing, which probably intrigues him. What is a girl to do? I guess the answer is pretty obvious.. or is it?
amerikajin Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Hi...after breaking up with my X and going through a dry spell..its suddenly raining men. What do people look for when they choose someone they want to be with? When do you decide..yes this is the one you want to be with. Has anyone just been casually dating and suddenly decided: ahah. this is the one. (1) The X: I don't really have any feelings for him any longer..except that I am very sentimental and treasure the good times we had. He has done a 180 degree change, is very attentive, try to do all the things I complained about, and is now doing an oil painting of me..which I still have to figure how to reject because he won't take no for an answer. (2) Boy 2: Quiet, polite, incredibly smart, but with a unique sense of humor. I really have a great time with him and laugh alot. He is incredibly sweet, he spends time with me, carries furniture for me, takes me out, makes plans on weekends, tells me when he's not going to be with me, does goofy things with me that kids do but doesn't care. is always on time. Calls me. Could not really ask for anything more. (3) Boy 3: flaky, incredibly charming with a winning smile. But good hearted at the end of the day. When we go out its loads of fun. Then he disappears and I don't hear from him for weeks, and then he pops up again. I'm pretty nonchalant about him appearing and disappearing, which probably intrigues him. What is a girl to do? I guess the answer is pretty obvious.. or is it? Not that you'll listen, but it seems like dude number two should get the first job offer. Going back to number one would be a big mistake, IMO. He had his chance and if it took him a dumping to get his ass straightened out, then that's just his tough titties. Number three? Maybe a backup in case number two doesn't work out? I predict you'll go with either three or, unfortunately, one. Why? Because while number 2 is your mother's natural choice for a son-in-law, number 3 is more unpredictable, and hence, more exciting; and number one is a nostalgic, sentimental choice.
tanbark813 Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 I have to agree with AK. I'd also bet money that #3 would want you as a f**k buddy but not as a gf.
amerikajin Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 I have to agree with AK. I'd also bet money that #3 would want you as a f**k buddy but not as a gf. You got that right.
Kamille Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 There's no rush to choose. Date, keep your options open until you meet someone you won't be able to resist. Or until one of your current men manages to tip you over to falling in love mode. Meanwhile enjoy the single life. Be respectful to the men you date, don't lead them on, but take this time to focus on what it is that you would want in a future relationship, and therefore which qualities you are looking for in a partner. That's what I did when it was raining men. I stayed level headed. Gave every guy a chance - but didn't force myself to choose or feel the rush to find someone. (I was too happy being single) Then became too wrapped up in work to date and of course that's when I met my current bf, who fits my 'wish list' to a T.
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