liddie Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 Well we are in midst of the holiday season and for ones that find themselves in the OW/OM shoes...do you buy your MM/MW a present? If you do what?
OWoman Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 Well we are in midst of the holiday season and for ones that find themselves in the OW/OM shoes...do you buy your MM/MW a present? If you do what? We're always giving each other presents though not necessarily linked to occasions. Neither of us is religious so there's no imperative to mark those kinds of calendar events, but we do nonetheless. What - depends. Books, music, jewellery, clothes, flowers, a drawing, massage oil, scent... the normal stuff people who love each other give each other. We know each other well enough to know what the other would like, so there've never been any cringe moments.
Author liddie Posted December 12, 2007 Author Posted December 12, 2007 I am contemplating buying him something. He buys me little gifts and I usually buy him stuff only around holidays. We will also be together one year shortly after christmas so I want to mark that day as well. Just not sure what to buy that she wouldn't get suspicious....
indianlover Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 I have no idea. My MM is wealthy so he's got basically everything he wants and I wouldn't be able to afford anything he'd wear anyway. So I'm giving him what he likes best *fill in blank here.* lol
KATANYA Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 I used to buy him only presents that he would generally buy himself when he goes away. He's really big on shopping so clothes or books/music were safe. I would NEVER buy him jewellery or anything 'personal' that there would be a risk of raising flags! Can't imagine how he would explain massage oils unless these items were left at the OW house.
GreenEyedLady Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Well we are in midst of the holiday season and for ones that find themselves in the OW/OM shoes...do you buy your MM/MW a present? If you do what? Well, this year is a little different in that the proceedings have already begun, but just as in the past I got him what I wanted to get him, that has significance to us and is something that he wanted... Aww, but what's he's giving me is no comparison...
Lyssa Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Now that he is divorced, I bought him some 'personal' prezzies and also for his children. I recently took a trip to Milan so bought him an Italian suit, 2 pieces of striped shirts (I just love it on a man!), cufflinks and some cute tops for his children.
OWoman Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Can't imagine how he would explain massage oils unless these items were left at the OW house. In my MM's case that was never a worry - his W never went into his bedroom or bathroom and would probably have assumed one of the kids got it for him if she did happen to see it. Other women hit on him all the time but he's completely oblivious to it, hence her smug complacency that there couldn't be another woman on the block. I thought jewellery would be silly since he didn't wear the wedding ring she gave him because "he doesn't like jewellery" but yet he wears the chain, the watch and the bracelet I bought him openly. (His sister says it's because I have better taste and if his W had wanted him to wear a ring she should have chosen one that was less ugly!) But if you're wanting something discreet, Liddie, best stick to the kind of things he could explain buying for himself - clothes he might buy on a whim, or books or music he might pick out, a new watch or some kind of boy toy like an electric razor (so you can be close to him every morning) or some gadget. Or the kind of thing his W would never have to see - something he'd use in the office, something for his car or something small enough to keep tucked away out of sight.
Lizzie60 Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Well we are in midst of the holiday season and for ones that find themselves in the OW/OM shoes...do you buy your MM/MW a present? If you do what? No, I never bought any of my MMs a present at X-mas.. I get some but I do not feel the obligation to buy them anything. I don't want them to feel they have to lie to their W about it..
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