youngmother Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 I am 17 and he is 27 and we are both Christians. He wants to get married when I turn 18 which isn't until October. I feel bad about having him wait but he says he would wait forever for me if he had to. We are so perfect together but I still can't help but think that he can do alot better. I am very mature for my age and no one would ever think I was only 17. We have a daughter together to. I want her to grow up with both a mother and father. Something that me and him never had. I keep having those thoughts that he can do better. What should I do?
Lauriebell82 Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 Why do you think he could do better? You are still very young, do you feel this way because he is a lot older than you?
Author youngmother Posted December 12, 2007 Author Posted December 12, 2007 I don't know. I just feel he can do alot better. Maybe it is because he is older.
ElvenPriestess Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 First you have a child together. If he was willing to do that obviously he thinks you to be more than worthy. So I wouldn't think of what else might be out there. If you both want to be together than do so. What day in October btw (totally off subject)
Lovegod Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 Wow, this is a disaster waiting to happen. First, a child is no reason to marry someone. If you're not ready to marry this guy, then don't marry him. Make it clear to him that you aren't ready. If he keeps pressuring you, ditch his ass. Second, you're too damn young to be married. You were too damn young to become a mother! I could lecture you on that, but there's no point in doing so now, What's done is done. Are you planning on going through life doing things that you're not ready for? You are a human being, and you can make decisions to NOT do things. Regarding your daughter, it's better to give her two seperate happy homes instead of one unhappy one. Unless you're 100% certain you're ready for a lifelong commitment, do not marry him for your sake and your daughter's.
BlueEyedSarah Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 youngmother, I keep having those thoughts that he can do better. What should I do? What you can do is join a club/or get counciling to help you not thinking negative thoughts. I am very mature for my age and no one would ever think I was only 17. You thinking negative thoughts shows your young age. Be happy your with a great guy who is waiting for you, think posative and have a good time with building a good family for your daughter, stop thinking negative and concerntrate on posatives in your life for the sake of your daughter having a happy one. If you don't feel ready for marriage, tell him your not ready right now, if he loves you enough he will respect you and wait until your ready - if he doesnt stick around then he is not worth it.
ElvenPriestess Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 October 28th Just curious, as I'm the 18th. Seriously though, you must always remember yourself and what will make you happy. Too often people do things for others and are not happy themselves. So just take time to think of what's best for YOU.
Jilly Bean Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 He's 27, you're 17, yet you have a child together, and are both "good Christians". Um, not sure how old your child is, but was this not statutory rape? How old were you when you got involved with him?
Touche Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 The OP didn't say "good" Christians. She just said "Christians." I'm not really even sure what the relevance of that is but I'm just curious about something, young mother...so you thought you were good enough to have intercourse with him and bear his child but you're not good enough to marry him? Whaaaa???? Where's the logic here? Oh and yes, Jilly Bean brought up a good point..this guy sounds like a pedophile to me. Could it be that HE'S not good enough for YOU?
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