eagle5 Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 Hi everyone, I know this happens to all (or most) of us at sometime, maybe more than once but just reading these threads has given me a litlte sense of calm, all be it a short one. To actually read others positive ideas and to realise others have felt exactly the same as me does help. Well my whole story is a long and complex one which I may disclose as I get a bit braver but the crux of it is that I've been seeing a girl for around 10 months and we had started to argue a bit, but I was madly, deeply in love and felt she was DEF the one, but she has asked for time out as of 4 days ago, she wants about a month to reassess how she feels and what she wants. I know she loved me as much as I loved her but that was then and this is now, she doesn't seem to know what she feels at the moment. I know I am hurting like crazy. This is supposed to be NC for the month but I am going completely mad. I can't eat properly, can't sleep properly and can't really concentrate on anything else, I just want to contact her, sms or call and see whats she's thinking. I know this would prob be dertimental if I did and I do understand she may need this time to sort her head out. It just hurts so badly and I'm the sort of person who too easily looks into the past and relives all the good/great things that happened. I want to become a stronger person for me and for my future but don't really know where to start. I've just been thinking how our star signs even matched perfectly, everything was perfect infact, but I'm hoping with all my heart and soul that she says she wants us to carry on. What should I do, am I right in leaving her to her own devices at the moment? How can I just function normally???? Sorry if this is a repitition of other threads but I just had to say what I'm going through and maybe hope for some advice...... Thanks........
Ronni_W Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 Hey, Eagle. It does suck, doesn't it? Yes, you're right to honour her request for NC. At this time of year, a short "Happy Holidays" card would not be out of line, IMO (without any "missing you sooo much" and emotional drama.) I'd even suggest snail mail for that cos, to me, it's less personal than email, text or such. Ability to function 'normally' is a little tougher . When I was going through a similar thing, my goal was along the lines of "What can I think/do next, to feel a bit better?" It was a struggle but I also made it a kind of a game, and it did work. In terms of work and chores -- nah! I wasn't able to stay on top of those as proficiently as before the break-up. Best of luck.
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