watch Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 So we broke up a little over a week ago and im starting to feel really tired from all that im putting into this. I thought it would be easier to let go but this is the first girl in a long line that has actually made me feel this way and feel like we had a chance at being together forever. I feel myself slipping into my old ways, sleeping with random girls every other night of the week, go out partying all weekend long, drinking my ass off (i know this isnt the best lifestyle). But its been a week and if i were to have ended it with anyone else, going out and getting some would have solved it instantly. Every girl i have been with reminds me why i got a girl and got away from the scene. All been one night stands and all im doing is trying to forget her. The girls i have been with since we broke up i have woken up next to while having dreams of her, and these are smoken hot girls!!. Why is it so damn hard to get her out of my head? I know i should work on myself and blah blah but i am confident in every way, work out, am starting the career of my dreams and can have any girl i put my mind too. except her. So what the hell? Do i just feel this way because i cant get her back? Is she just a conquest that i must win? Is it just some chemical my body is used to getting that im now deprived of? Or do i genuinely have some cosmic connection to her? Everything has been going so well and now i have this hole. She ruined me. I got a taste of complete happyness and now its gone.... You know what.. Screw her! Any suggestions on where i can run into some down to earth girls that arent just little bar flys? and yeah ive heard the grocery store, library, blah blah but lets be realistic......Also i feel like we all are wasting way too much time and energy on people that dont deserve it. Isnt it just absolutly exahuasting?. Man i hate her and love her at the same time.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 Maybe your finaly afraid of STDs? lol.. Honestly you sound a little shallow maybe thats most of your prob!
Author watch Posted December 12, 2007 Author Posted December 12, 2007 Guess different people have different ways of getting over breakups. Wish i could be up on that pedestal with you.
MissCourtney Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 Im sorry to hear about your situation... And no, you aren't the only person who goes to bars and sleeps around when they break up with their partner. (VERY COMMON IN TEXAS) lol Dont try to find someone. They will find you. The more you search, the less you find. Atleast thats how it seems to happen with me . She will find you when you least expect it. Have a great day! -c
MissCourtney Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 Oh and dont listen to that ********* BYE
Author watch Posted December 12, 2007 Author Posted December 12, 2007 Thanks for the positive feedback Court. I think your right in that i should take a less proactive approach to getting over her but its hard. I feel like if im out chasing tail it will be easier to forget her and move on. ugg! But i dont even know if i want to do that. Guys arent supposed to act like this. I never cared before. Why now? I just feel confused. My brain tells me to just forget her and move on while something else is holding me back and making me hurt.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 # 1 sounds like he compleatly treats most women like trash or is that just me? The way he talks about them like there just meet put on the earth to entertain him inbetween his own self inflicted heart akes makes me sick. How am I wrong there I dident say anything wrong sorry maybe you like being treated like a little "bar fly" but I guess if thats what your use to you wouldent know any better lol.. Gezz guess it is tru the girls like being used and abused sad.. I belive in what goes around comes around and if he wantes to make things work with a women then he needs to start seeing them with more respect in genral! Oh and I'm not on any pedistal lmao I just know how to treat people.
amaysngrace Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 It takes time to get over someone. Expecting it to happen in a week is unrealistic. I think you have a very normal reaction. You cared about her. You didn't treat her like crap. And as long as these ONS girls are okay with casual sex than so what? Don't listen to monkey. His name says it all. The thing you don't seem to see is that you have it in you to care deeply for someone. That's huge IMO. A lot of people are too selfish to get there. But someone will appreciate that about you one day. Give it time. Just like you expect to get over her in a week, hoping to find someone to care about in the same week is just as dumb. Good things come to those who wait. And if you are looking for someone to mean something to you quit going to bars and taking girls home. You can still go hang out in bars but talk to these girls. Don't take them home to nail them the same day you meet them. Like them for them first without seeing them as just a sexual prospect. Show them some respect and respect yourself too. Good relationships are built on mutual respect.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 Hey whats wrong with my name? lol.. Oh I'm not a him eather but guess thats easy to confuse. Look they way he talks about women and how there a pice of "tail" isent that nice is it? maybe I've missed something here Sure he may have been nice to that one girl great. But just his over all attitude towards women in genral is lacking no?
amaysngrace Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 Hey whats wrong with my name? lol.. Oh I'm not a him eather but guess thats easy to confuse. Look they way he talks about women and how there a pice of "tail" isent that nice is it? maybe I've missed something here Sure he may have been nice to that one girl great. But just his over all attitude towards women in genral is lacking no? No you're right. He's showing a lack of depth in the way he treated them. And he is showing that he's not being very respectful. But by you pointing that out to him rather than helping him isn't acting much better IMO. I think he's having a typical reaction. And I was just busting on your name because I could.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 No you're right. He's showing a lack of depth in the way he treated them. And he is showing that he's not being very respectful. But by you pointing that out to him rather than helping him isn't acting much better IMO. I think he's having a typical reaction. And I was just busting on your name because I could. That lack of depth was a hint to me as to maybe why the girl isent intrested in him anymore to be honest. I was pointing said lack of depth out to him to maybe try and let him see this. But perhaps I was a bit to harsh I have a habbit of that sorry I was trying to help him in my own way:confused: Now far as the name thing oh since you put it that way no prob lol the nic cirtinaly is bringing the intresting responses but that was to be expected I supose!
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