LovesDog Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 If a girl is independent, successful, outgoing, fun, sexy/attractive, and affectionate, how would a normal guy react if she chases him somewhat? Meaning she calls and asks him to hang out every so often....with him also calling but not initiating dates as much. Is that something guys like? Is it something they run from? I just wonder because there are so many girls that I've seen actually "catch" a guy they chased by hanging around them a lot and calling them all of the time. Are there some guys that like that kind of girl???
polywog Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 Me, too. I guess the same way a guy would have with taking the risk of pursuing women (or men with men, or women with women). I've never been very shy about asking a guy out in my adult life, and have often taken the initiative (after vibing out whether he's interested or not, of course). But I have had regrets if it turned out I wasn't interested trying to get them to back away when it turned out I wasn't. It's like they think I asked them out, so that must mean I'm crazy about them and I won't change my mind.
Jilly Bean Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 I think if a woman has all that going on, then she is already intimidating to men, so asking them out and pursuing them takes away a bit of their manliness. I think when you chase them, it takes away their role, and makes them a whole lot LESS interested in you. Look at it this way, if he cant ask you out, then hes not right for you anyhow. Right?
tanbark813 Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 I like it provided I'm interested in the girl. If I'm not attracted to her I would dislike it. I'm sure I'm not alone on these stances either.
truckdriving Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 I think its kinda refreshing when a girl takes the initiative.
xfess Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 Man, i wish that'd happen to me. If I really liked the girl and she wants to make plans from time to time instead of the reverse role of me doing that, I would love it. Although you do need time for yourself - but the idea thats shes really interested in spending time with you is great
Dynamo Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 I like it provided I'm interested in the girl. If I'm not attracted to her I would dislike it. I'm sure I'm not alone on these stances either. I agree with Tanbark.
D-Lish Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 It doesn't sound as if you are going overboard chasing him. If you really want to find out what is going on with him, don't call for a while and see if he pursues you. Yes, some men enjoy the chase. I don't ask men out, I like being pursued. I'll only initiate spending time together once I have been dating someone for a bit. I would just pull back a bit and let him come to you more often. If he is the kind of guy that wants to be the chaser... he'll come to you.
Pyro Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 If a girl is independent, successful, outgoing, fun, sexy/attractive, and affectionate, how would a normal guy react if she chases him somewhat? Meaning she calls and asks him to hang out every so often....with him also calling but not initiating dates as much. Is that something guys like? Is it something they run from? I just wonder because there are so many girls that I've seen actually "catch" a guy they chased by hanging around them a lot and calling them all of the time. Are there some guys that like that kind of girl??? As long as this girl you are referring to doesn't take it overboard, then I think its great, but everyone has their own outlook on what is considered to be overboard.
Pedigree Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 I think its kinda refreshing when a girl takes the initiative I like it provided I'm interested in the girl. If I'm not attracted to her I would dislike it. I'm sure I'm not alone on these stances either. I agree with these.
Trialbyfire Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 Ultimately, what kind of guy do you want and are you comfortable being the pursuer?
Author LovesDog Posted December 12, 2007 Author Posted December 12, 2007 It doesn't sound as if you are going overboard chasing him. If you really want to find out what is going on with him, don't call for a while and see if he pursues you. Yes, some men enjoy the chase. I don't ask men out, I like being pursued. I'll only initiate spending time together once I have been dating someone for a bit. I would just pull back a bit and let him come to you more often. If he is the kind of guy that wants to be the chaser... he'll come to you. I am laughing right now b/c he has called me 3 days in a row and initiated a couple of texts. Though, he has not asked me to do anything with him (???). I am just happy that we are chatting more often. Dlish, remember my last post ("keep it simple")? I was talking about how I told him I was going to back off. So, here we are, he is taking initiative now. I think he likes the give and take. Sometimes being chased, sometimes the pursuer. I guess I like things this way as well. I just hate not knowing where I stand. I am not much of a pursuer myself. I am really curious on people's perspective on this. Thanks everyone for the input. Keep it coming
D-Lish Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 I don't like to be an advocate for playing games.... but I knew if you backed off he would come on a little stronger....they often do. That's a good sign- he wouldn't be calling if he didn't like you. If he sees you aren't initiating as much- he'll naturally feel curious as to why and come on a little stronger. I turn my phone and msn off and become unreachable every once in a while.... It just adds a little mystery. Yeah, I am only at home in my pj's watching tv.... but he doesn't need to know that. I always find that when I do that, it keeps things interesting.
Sunblast Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 Before you write all these qualities, ask yourself if you really are all that, or you just think you are.
Author LovesDog Posted December 12, 2007 Author Posted December 12, 2007 baby, i'm all that!!!! i wasn't necessarily talking about myself. just trying to get some perspective
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