niceandslow Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 I really screwed things up. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 7 months. On Sunday night, we went out to a nice dinner then went back to his place. Everything was going really well, but we both were watching football and drinking a little. I got a little wasted really fast. At some point I blacked out, and I don't remember what happened. I do remember him telling me to just go to bed and I started crying. The next morning when I woke up, I told him how sorry I was for being obnoxious. Plus, we had amazing sex in the morning. Last night, we talk on the phone and everything seemed to be ok. Then he called back like 15 minutes later, and he says I'm a great girl but things aren't working out. I asked him why and he said the night before I was just too much for him. He said I was acting crazy. He wouldn't go in to detail what I did, but it had to be bad. He said I was in his face and crying, and he just thought I was crazy because of my behavior. I know I'm not like this, and it was definitely the alcohol. I tried to reason with him, but he was like give me a few days. First he said it was completely done then he said he needed time to think about things. Everything happened so fast, I still don't know what to think. This is the best relationship I have ever had, and I don't want things to end this way. I can't believe one bad night could ruin our relationship. I want to talk to him today, but he hasn't answered my calls. I really don't know how to handle this situation. I want him to listen to what I have to say, but how can I if he won't give me 5 minutes to talk? I know I should probably give him space, but this is killing me. I really need some advice on what to do.
Lovegod Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 I really need some advice on what to do. Quit drinking. That's how you won't mess up your next relationship.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 So sorry about your perdicament. We've all done things we are not proud of. Is this a pattern for you or a flutish thing? If a fluke, then he maybe using this as an excuse to get out of the relationship. If its a pattern, than he sees roadblocks ahead and wants to cut and run. Give him a few days and plan to meet him face to face. He owes you a better explanation. Any way he could have met someone else? It maybe a possibility.....
EYECANDY000 Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 It sounds like an excuse. Im sure that you may have been emotional, and if a little crying is freaking him out then he wont ever be able to handle women. I know it hurts to not be able to speak to someone and speak your peace , but you have to give him time. dont make thinks worst by keep calling, he may use that as an excuse as well. If he decided to call back and end the relationship after 7 months then he is looking for an excuse to end the relationship.
EYECANDY000 Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 oh yea, secondly , dont blame yourself.. Im sure almost everyone has been drinking cordially and then had to much to drink and became a little emotional. Because how i see it is if you guys stay together and he wants to watch some football and have a couple of drinks, you will be freaking out because your going to feel like you dont want to give him another excuse about your drinking.
MissCourtney Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Honestly In my opinion, It sounds like an excuse. Sorry babe
Lauriebell82 Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 I agree with the other posters that this sounds like an excuse. If you drink heavily like this and he sees this as a red flag then maybe I could see his concern. It doesn't sound like this is the case though. I think he is looking for a reason to end the relationship and this seems justified to him. Guys don't usually end relationships just because their gfs act crazy from drinking. I have gotten really drunk and acted dumb when I have been drunk and my boyfriend has never broken up with me over it, and vice versa. Generally you act stupid at SOME point in a relationship, especially a long term one. Have you seen any other problems in the relationship? Honestly though, I really don't think that you can do anything if he wants out of your relationship..and trying to convince him to stay is NOT something you want to do. He should be with you because he wants to, and not because you convinced him to stay. That's not a good foundation to build a relationship on. Sorry this is happening to you.
D-Lish Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 The best way to handle this is to give him the space he has asked for. You want to talk right now, but he does not- and it's a mistake to keep pushing him to listen, that will only push him further away. I guarantee that. We have all done ridiculous things when drinking... But the other posters are right, people don't break up over one drunken incident. So, just give him the space and let him come to you- it's really important not to push him to talk when he isn't ready. Sorry this has happened.
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