Florida Posted December 16, 2007 Posted December 16, 2007 Has your x at least stopped visiting your webpage? I'm curious about that. Caliguy could you tell me how you know your ex is visiting your webpage? Is it a blog? Or do you have some kind of tracker program on your webpage? I have never heard of such a thing where you can identify the who, only the hit counts...!
Author CaliGuy Posted December 16, 2007 Author Posted December 16, 2007 Caliguy could you tell me how you know your ex is visiting your webpage? Is it a blog? Or do you have some kind of tracker program on your webpage? I have a web site and my web page provider records all the hits by IP address to the page. If you're computer savvy you can figure out where the hits are coming from based on the ISP. In the case of my ex, it was clearly her as her work ISP is the same name as her company. That was a no brainer. The home address I found out by an email she sent me. The IP address from where the email came from matched many hits to my site. That was also plainly obvious. I have never heard of such a thing where you can identify the who, only the hit counts...! It's much more than just the hits. It's the IP address. It acts like a personal "stamp" that you've been there. With just a little research you can figure out who the IP address belongs to. Not all the time, but quite often.
carolinaboy Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 Hey Caliguy, I hope you know you're not alone, but it's weird for me too. My ex cheated on me, dumped me and kind of turned my world upside down. Her mom had lived in our shared apt. for a little while and aside from that I started dating my ex right before her mom's youngest son died. So I was with the family, the mom, ex's twin sister, ex's other brother and ex during this time. now that my ex and I arent really friends (we hung out a couple of weeks ago and made out and then I tried to get back together w/ her and she shut me down, then wouldnt return my calls....this is after I honored her request to hang out after 5 mos. of NC on my part), she calls me when she's at her moms, cos her mom reminisces and my ex thinks about me and calls and her mom and I talk for a while. Now b/c of the holidays, the brother is in town and him and I were close too. I want to get drunk tonight and call em up and have one big congenial chit chat, but I know (like you Caliguy), they were part of the "package." They also get my ex to call in their place.... I dont know what to tell you CG, cos I dont know what to do myself. Part of me thinks I should be grownup enough to just talk to them and accept their care, but the other just gets torn up over my ex not caring at all. Didnt mean to blast up my life story on your post, I have just been struggling with the SAME dilemma ALL LAST NIGHT AND TODAY. Good luck to us both. In your case, I say give her some small talk and if she mentions the daughter then you really break it down for her how hard it is for you. I could talk to my ex's mom and not worry about my ex, cos her mom asks me how I'm doing and focuses on me and I talk to her about her life. What is hard for me is my ex being the stepping stone b/w her mom and myself. Any thoughts?
Author CaliGuy Posted January 3, 2008 Author Posted January 3, 2008 Hey Caliguy, I hope you know you're not alone, but it's weird for me too. My ex cheated on me, dumped me and kind of turned my world upside down. Her mom had lived in our shared apt. for a little while and aside from that I started dating my ex right before her mom's youngest son died. So I was with the family, the mom, ex's twin sister, ex's other brother and ex during this time. now that my ex and I arent really friends (we hung out a couple of weeks ago and made out and then I tried to get back together w/ her and she shut me down, then wouldnt return my calls....this is after I honored her request to hang out after 5 mos. of NC on my part), she calls me when she's at her moms, cos her mom reminisces and my ex thinks about me and calls and her mom and I talk for a while. Now b/c of the holidays, the brother is in town and him and I were close too. I want to get drunk tonight and call em up and have one big congenial chit chat, but I know (like you Caliguy), they were part of the "package." They also get my ex to call in their place.... I dont know what to tell you CG, cos I dont know what to do myself. Part of me thinks I should be grownup enough to just talk to them and accept their care, but the other just gets torn up over my ex not caring at all. Didnt mean to blast up my life story on your post, I have just been struggling with the SAME dilemma ALL LAST NIGHT AND TODAY. Good luck to us both. In your case, I say give her some small talk and if she mentions the daughter then you really break it down for her how hard it is for you. I could talk to my ex's mom and not worry about my ex, cos her mom asks me how I'm doing and focuses on me and I talk to her about her life. What is hard for me is my ex being the stepping stone b/w her mom and myself. Any thoughts? Well I basically told her folks that I don't think it's a good idea to chat anymore. That is was nothing personal it's just that they were indeed part of the package and when she left, she took them with her. They are her family, not mine. As much as I love them, they should not be a part of my life. And while I do miss them, I also realize I am much better off not having a constant reminder of my past. I'm a million times happier simply because I don't have that reminder of her floating about. Do what you have to, but I really believe in order to move on with life, some relationships will have to suffer. Even the good ones, my friend.
Krytie TV Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 Hey, CG, I know this is off topic, but are you still dating the 21 year old? I was wondering recently.
Author CaliGuy Posted January 3, 2008 Author Posted January 3, 2008 Hey, CG, I know this is off topic, but are you still dating the 21 year old? I was wondering recently. Yes, on and off but nothing is set in stone. She's young and I would have to say the major issue with her is not knowing what she wants whereas I know who I am, where I am going and what I want. She wants to be with me, no doubt, but her insecurities are the biggest obstable. So in a nutshell, yes we hang out and do things but I'm not sure where it's going nor do I fret about it. If she isn't the one, time will tell.
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