LovesJim55 Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Ok let me start off by saying I have only ever been in 2 relationships, both of which lasted nearly 2 years. The last one ended back in July and even though I ended it, I was heartbroken. By October I felt I was ready to get back out there, but little did I realize how easy I had it with the past 2 guys. In the past couple of months, I have had 5 guys show interest, date me for a week or so then say "see ya!" when I wouldn't have sex with them. As you can imagine, it soured my view on guys and I no longer paid them any attention. Fast forward to the second week of November when I started my new seasonal job at Sears. I happened to wander into electronics, where the people who work there never really associate with anyone from the other departments. A guy who works there came up to me to get the return I was giving him and I joked around with him a bit then turned to leave and he asked my name. So he would occassionaly come walk by the mens cash wrap just to say hi. We became friends of the sort. Then 3 weeks later he asks me out to dinner and without even thinking I said yes. We went out that night and had a good time talking with each other and we went back to his dorm to hang out with his friends. I got along great with everyone. When I went home, he asked to see me again soon. After that we hung out 3 more times. Now, in the past 3 days he has said he will call or get in touch with me and he hasnt. One of the nights was fine because I know his mom showed up unexpectedly and it slipped his mind. As for these other 2 times, it could be that this is the week before finals and he is busy. Should I call him today and ask to hang out? He assured me that he did want to see me again a couple days ago. I don't want to seem pushy:o I have been so turned off by guys and dating, that it is shocking for me to want to see him again this bad, he kind of wormed his way into my life. Is his interest in me waning or am I being overreactive right now?
spookie Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Well with finals going on right now and the holidays just around the corner, he may just be overwhlemed withe verything going on in his life right now. I'd cut him some slack. He'll contact you when things slow down, if he wants to. It's important to establish a pattern of non-neediness right off the bat, I think. For your own benefit more than his. You need to know you can live without him, which of course you can. That'll help you enjoy the times you are together. BTW I can totally relate to the feelings of surprise/disgust as you get back in the dating game. There's lots of unappealing men out there! Good job on braving it so fast. My breakup was in May and I'm still not ready.
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