Mice Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 He got it quite a few years ago, and he no longer really speaks to this girl. They don't even live in the same tristate area anymore. So I would first off like to specify that this girl isn't a threat in any way. But I'm sure you could imagine that this tattoo really bothers me. Every time I look at it, it's like a reminder that he was with somebody else. I'm a pretty realistic girl, and realize that I am not the first girl he's been with, but it still bothers me to have to think about it every time I see him. Plus, the tattoo is on his wrist... Pretty visible! At first I thought this was pretty funny. And kind of made jokes about it, but now that we are more serious, and planning on moving in together this summer, my views have changed... I know he could probably easily get this tattoo covered with something else. Is there any way I could bring this up to him? Should I bring it up to him at all or should I just keep my mouth shut about this one?
Tripper Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 How about offering to pay for the tattoo removal as a Christmas gift?? Or split the cost as a gift to both of yourselves...
Timberlane Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Tell him to tattoo "I no longer love __ __ __, but now love (your initials here.)":lmao:
lovelorcet Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Seriously... Why do people do this? Not only someone's initials but on your wrist? Get it lasered...
blind_otter Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Tattoo removals are iffy, as far as I've heard. They take a long time and don't necessarily produce the best results. I would recommend a cover up tattoo. Something that is neutral, that he likes, and that has no association with anyone's name or initials.
serialgf Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 i don't think there's anything wrong with suggesting he cover it up... especially if you're at the moving in together stage... tripper makes a good suggestion of offering to pay for it as a xmas gift! but instead of removal, i would also suggest a coverup... it could be fun to go with him and you would be a part of it so it would make you feel better all around. just make sure to pick something neutral!
serialgf Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 i don't think there's anything wrong with suggesting he cover it up... especially if you're at the moving in together stage... tripper makes a good suggestion of offering to pay for it as a xmas gift! but instead of removal, i would also suggest a coverup... it could be fun to go with him and you would be a part of it so it would make you feel better all around. just make sure to pick something neutral!
spookie Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Seriously... Why do people do this? Not only someone's initials but on your wrist? Shows commitment in a way marriage never will.
spookie Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 From what I've also heard, removals don't work that well, and they're expensive and time-consuming. If it's just her initials I am sure a good artist can work them seamlessly into another tattoo. Maybe you can offer to pay for it as an anniversary/ birthday/ Christmas gift?
schweetpea Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Tell him to tattoo "I no longer love __ __ __, but now love (your initials here.)":lmao: I want a tatoo of Aqua Teen Hunger Force
lovelorcet Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Shows commitment in a way marriage never will. :lmao::lmao: Right... That commitment seemed to work out just as well as half of all marriages.
roxy_1980 Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 I'd get him a gift certificate for his tattoo parlour for Christmas. (Doesn't have to be for the whole thing, maybe half?) When you give it to him, try to bring it up then. Just telling him that you don't know why but it bothers you and ask if he ever thought of covering it up. He probably no longer wants it either, but never went through the trouble of getting rid of it. If he says no, well, he can always use it for something else. Just give it to him in advance of Christmas though, in case he takes it badly. No need to be fighting on Christmas Day. PS. Make sure they recolour the old part or it still shows, I'm sure it's faded by now.
tanbark813 Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Let's say the current initials are AB. He could get the tattoo updated to look like: CD > AB where you're CD. Then if you guys ever break up he can update it to be: EF > CD > AB for the next gf. Then if he times things just right, eventually it could be something like: IJ > GH > EF > CD > AB and wrap all the way back around to finish off with AB > IJ. Then it would be a metaphor for how there's always someone better out there. Of course, this is a long-term solution.
spookie Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Let's say the current initials are AB. He could get the tattoo updated to look like: CD > AB where you're CD. Then if you guys ever break up he can update it to be: EF > CD > AB for the next gf. Then if he times things just right, eventually it could be something like: IJ > GH > EF > CD > AB and wrap all the way back around to finish off with AB > IJ. Then it would be a metaphor for how there's always someone better out there. Of course, this is a long-term solution. Lol. I like this plan.
Author Mice Posted December 11, 2007 Author Posted December 11, 2007 Thanks for all the good suggestions. lol Maybe I could get him to cover it up with a portrait of my face or something. Or the ET > TG > HW thing is a great idea too. Seriously though, I kind feel awkward bringing it up. I don't want to sound like his mom or anything. But since it bothers me so much, I guess it's worth a try. And it is very small, so I'm sure he could find something that would cover it.
Lovegod Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Why don't you change your name to match the initials? But yeah, a Christmas gift to cover it up with another tattoo is a splendid idea
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