femmdevil Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Hey: Do you think we might reunite at some point? Here's the situation: My ex and I started up 8 months ago and in the beginning, things were pretty great. We were in love: very good friends and lovers. After 3.5 months, my father died in a terrible accident and I never got to say goodbye. I always wanted to fully express myself to my dad, but never did. I was devastated and highly emotional. When this happened, I was also just graduating college and trying to find work in a highly competitive industry. After dad died I found myself unemployed, depressed, and my relationship with my mom was strained. Don't have a barrage of friends, so I ended up leaning on boyfriend a lot. We still loved each other and had many good experiences despite my circumstances. He was really there for me for awhile, but 2 months later he started withdrawing. He did this because I was hitting rock bottom and lost self-sustainability as my life downward-spiraled for awhile. Once he began withdrawing, I became more insecure and needy. We had fights. I really wanted to talk and see if we could come up with a strategy while things were hard. He never seemed to have time. His life got a lot busier with work changes, finances, and things having been put off. After weeks of him being quite withdrawn, with moments of meanness, he broke up with me nearly a week ago. He said he needs to get his life back on track, and he feels like he's out of control. He said he couldn't take care of me because he cannot take care of himself. He also said it was really bad timing that this happened while we were building our foundation. He said being that he sees me as such a caring and amazing person, he doesn't see why it couldnt work at some other time. However, he also said since he has only been in 3 relationships at age 34, he might want to have a couple more before deciding on "the one." He said he expecteed we would be friends and see each other semi-regularly. He was mostly sweet, affectionate, and resolute before I left... but he also made a few mean or vindictive statements which I ignored. The next night he sent me a text message with a simple ":(" sad face. So I sent him one back. Nothing more after 2 days. Right now, I feel like I want he and I to get our separate lives back on track, and eventually reunite with him. Is that ridiculous, unrealistic, possible or potential?? In the meantime, I am starting therapy, seeing friends, writing, and going to the gym. I appreciate your input.
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