Girlfriend trust

[jahjahcr]

Hi everyone, I'm new here so I hope this is the right forum to go to!

 

This is a long story so sit back and relax.

 

My girlfriend and I have been dating two months going on three. We are seriously head over heels for eachother. I have been her longest boyfriend so far. Before we started dating... she would tell me how much she likes me. I would do the same. A couple of days later, she tells me she's started dating another guy. And me being confused asked her why she screwed me around so much. Anyway, long story short, she dumps him for me. Two weeks later, I find out she never did dump him and lied about it as I saw hints such as myspace comments of "I love you". She also had him as second on her friends list. So then, she REALLY did dump him. We started dating. Everything was going well. Then one day, we were eating McDonald's and this guy walks past and she says "..whoa that guys hot", right in my face. So I go nuts at her. She apologises, cries, and says she'll never ever hurt me again. Most of you will agree that she should not have said that to my face.

 

Now here is the main issue. Just today... on a social netorking website called Bebo. She told a guy she loved him, and I quote "I wuv you [as a friend] lol." Which I am COMPLETLY cool with... I may have had a little problem with it at first, but I am fine with it now. Then I see that that same guy is second on her profile friends list just like that previous guy on myspace before we went out. And then I see a bulletin on myspace from her asking everyone to "ADD HIM <333" with a link to his profile.

 

Am I over reacting? Is she relapsing into the episode with that previous guy? She has given me a THOUSAND reasons not to trust her. So, please, guys, girls... TELL ME, how can I trust that she will not do that same thing that she did with the previous guy?

 

Thank you so much and I await your replies.

 

Chris

[D-Lish]

Okay.... hmmmm.

trust is earned... it is never something you should simply give to someone.

 

Someone pointing out someone else is hot right in front of you is never cool.... whether it is a first date or a ten year marriage.

 

I need a little more info.... like age?

 

I am trying to decipher if it is just you being a little insecure and over reactive to this new relationship.... or whether there is a problem - red flag- you need to worry about.

 

Female opinion??? We too sometimes throw out random comments to get a reaction.... and we sometimes play the field.

 

At the moment you are having a gut reaction to things this girl has said and done... I really want to tell you to trust what your gut says.... its' usually right.

[jahjahcr]

Thanks for the response. I am 19. She is 17. So she maybe at that immature stage of her life where she is really impulsive. But I don't know. She's just never given me a reason to trust her. And she expects me to.