SR20 Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 hey all, I have been cruising about this site for about the past 2 monthes now, looking for hope that my girlfriend may come back after leaving me, after 4.5 years together. I know that ppl dont come back here after everything works out for them, but i thought that it would be right to give some sort of hope out there for ppl who are wondering whether or not their loved one, may come back one day. Let me give you a little run down of my relationship, I first met my gf when i was 20 and she was 15.. we had been together for 4.5 years, before she left me to go off with another guy 3 days after we had broken up.. I know you're now saying OMG! - you were 20 and she was 15! - i did the right thing by telling her mum straight away how old i was, and her mum allowed me to go out with her agreeing that we do everything by her rules, as opposed to just saying no, and us going behind her back.. i first met her when i was out with some of my friends who knew some of her friends, we kicked things off really well as soon as we saw each other.. the first time i met her i never thought that i would one day want to marry her, sure enough though, after she turned 18, i proposed to her and she said yes.. I guess we first started having problems after this happened.. I dont know for what reason, but after we had gotten engaged i started hanging out with my mates more, smoking heaps of pot and basically just dissing her..from then on we basically started going downhill for the next year and a half.. seeing as that i was her first only real bf, she started blamming me for looking at other girls and crazy stuff like that.. 2 monthes ago (while we still together) she started telling me that a guy keeps coming into her work and asking her if she wanted to go to lunch with him - she told me that she kept on saying no, untill agreeing that she would because he only works a couple o stores down from her.. The on a thursday she tells me that she needs a break.. fair enough.. on the following Monday i see a missed call from her on my phone, so i call her back - she was tears, telling me that she'd already moved on! - i was like WTF!! i couldnt believe it, i was ****ing devestated!! every day for the next 3 weeks i was writing at least 6 A4 paged letters to her, telling her how much i missed her and how id wait for her..I was in a complete mess at this stage, crying every day - asking myself whats the ****in point of living and all of this other crazy stuff - she rang me about once a week after that just telling me that she's thinking about breaking up with this guy and how its not the same.. one friday she did break up with him - but i know that he was bugging the hell out of her, as he only works a couple of stores down.. Then the following thursday she calls me and asks me to come over for a chat - when i got there, she tells me that wants to get back together with me - i was over the ****ing moon! i was sure in my head that theres no way she wouldve ****ed this guy in 2weeks - she's always been soo commited over the past 4.5 years and she was a virgin before she met me. we went straight back to my place and had mad sex.. after we did it, i could just tell that there was something on her mind - i kept on bugging her to tell me what it was - then she finally says it "Im scared, ive already had to take the morning after pill twice" - my heart fell out of my ****ing heart right there and then, after she said that.. she went home after that .. the next day we hung out - and it was like the first time we had ever met - complete in love and over the moon for each other - the spark was back! The happiness which we had drowned out, the hurt which i had felt.. the next night, she ended up saying that she was going over to a friends place for a BBQ - i said fair enough, i'll be at home.. i went home and gave her mum a call - ( her mum has been there, everytime i was feeling like **** and balling my eyes out, she was there when her brother broke up with his gf after 7 years and she got married 6 monthes later - he ws ****ing devestated for about a year!) anyways, my point being that my gf's mum is a ****in mad bitch - she always told me that she hopes that me and daughter end up together, she wouldnt give her new bf the time of day and always end up snobbing him off everytime, he asked to go out for a coffeee with her, to get to know each other.. through this whole thing, my gf's mum always told me that she saw him as a stage in her life and never anything serious.. ) point being that i couldnt have done this without my gf's mum - i wouldve killed myself if she wasnt there for me.... back to the story.. i was on the phone, that night telling her how awsome it was to get back with her daughter and what a mad day we had together, just as i said that, my gf walked into my bedroom - it was the best ****in surprise ever!! she told me that she didnt really go to her friends BBQ, but she went to see her bf and say tell him that things were definately over between them and that she ws coming back to me - i had total respect for her for doing that, he was crused, saying all crazy **** like how he was going to get a tattoo of her name on himself and crazy whack ****.. i didnt care.. the next night my gf went out to clubbing with her freinds, telling me that this bf wouldnt take the breakup as over and he was constantly calling her over and over again.. she got angry after going out that night, saying that it reminded her off all of the times we tried to go out vclubbing and i was perving at other chicks.. the next day she told me that she needed time to herself - like 3 weeks to work out what she wants ie either him or me, we left on a pretty ****ing bad note, and by the next day i knew that he would be bugging her and she would go off with him.. this was confirmed as i was talking to her mum thorugh thr week and her mum was telling me to move on, then if we ever got back together we would be even.. I was ****ing crushed after that had happened - i was asking myself, how would i ever look at her the same - 4.5 years down the ****ing drain.. everyday after that i was cruising these forums, trying to work out tha chances of someone coming back to you and the chances of working out.. for 3 weeks i was back to no contact.. everyday as soon as i get home id ball my ****ing eyes out, just wondering if she would ever come back.. i spoke to a mate at work and he garunteed that she would come back one day- and that they always come back to thier first love, especially after being with someone for soo long.. I felt so much better after hearing that, but id still feel ****ing down, knowing that she described this guy as perfect and he was sooo sweet always buying her flowers and gay presents and ****.. I was losing my ****ing mind, always looking at horoscopes everyday- just tyring to get a sign that she would come back.. I was losing my ****ing mind! - i knew i didnt want to move on to find someone else - i kept on tellingm myself how the **** am i ever going to find someone like her again - she was absolutley beutifull, commited, smart, sexy - she was everything.. i knew id never find someone like her in this lifetime again.. I kept wondering if she would ever call me again - and if she did i would follow the strict rules of NC and tell her that i didnt want her calling me whilst she was with someone else, and not to call me unless she was %110 sure that she wanted to be with me.. well, that day had come today - i left my phone at home and i saw 2 missed calls from her work number .. i didnt call her straight away. I rang her mum instead and told her that i saw a couple of missed calls - as i was on the phone to her mum, she started calling .. As soon as i picked up i told her - look i dont want you to call me to see how im doing, while your with someone else - she replied, im not - ive broken up with him - i was complete ****ing gobsmacked after she told me that.. she said that she would much rather be with nobody and have me there as a friend, than be with someone and not have me there at all.. ok well, thanks for reading i hope thats given you some sort of faith - i know this site lacks a bit of that =) im not saying that we will end up together in the end, im just saying that you never know which way its going to go.. it was only yesterday when i was telling myself that im willing to wait the next year or 2 for her.. im going to say like everybody does, i cant garuntee that your loved one is going to come back you as every single relationship is diffrent from the next, im just writing this to say, that i know how you feel and ive just gone through what your going through right now.. and if its meant to be its meant to be, give it time.. for the mean time, while your doing no contact, do stuff for yourself - exercise! as hard as it is while your feeling depressed.. i have never done any exercise in my whole entire life - but for the past 3 weeks ive been getting up at 5am and going for a morning walk for an hour! I know that ive written this in a completley difrfent frame of mind than what i was 3 hours ago, and i know that ive missed out a **** load of things.. anyways im outtie, i hope everything works out for the best for everyone out there, if you need any support just hollar at me, i know how you are feeling now, less than 3 hours ago! peace..
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