BrianG Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 I know NC is to to help us heal and move on, and we should be with someone that wants to be you, but just sitting on my hands and doing nothing sucks!!!!!!!!!!!! I have been in NC fo little over a month and I loathe every day of it and struggle with doing nothing everyday (except working on myself, which in itself is not bad all). What is worse is that I am the one to blame for being dumped (lied, but never cheated), I guess I made my bed and I need to lie in it. I guess I deserve it, but still hate it so much. I love her so much and just want to make things right and frustrated with moving on. I still cannot let go of the guilt and regret that seems to build larger everyday of being apart. Yeah, absence sure makes the heart grow fonder, but it seems to be affecting me more than her. I know we all mistakes and were human but I know were not all perfect angels on here. Has anyone else been in a situation and your the one that is to blame for the breakup? If so had did you release the guilt and shame of being the one to blame? I worked on so many things about myself through couseling and cognitive behavioral specialists as well as books upon books. Just frustrated and needed to vent, love her so much and I just frustrated with moving on. If i see another jewelry commercial i am gonna throw my tv out the window, ha ha.
k10k Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Heya Brian Just wanted to say hang in there.. I'm not entirely to blame for my breakup, but I'm also struggling with regret. There are so many things I did wrong when I look back - I feel guilty for taking my ex for granted at times, and for being so focused on work and neglecting his needs. I think one of the hardest lessons us humans can learn is that we never really appreciate what we have until it's gone. At the end of the day all we can do is to learn from our mistakes and forgive ourselves so that we can move on and become better people. You are taking the right steps by focusing on yourself, and eventually all your hard work is sure to pay off. I know what you mean about those damn commercials, if I see another happy couple giving eachother xmas gifts, I'm gonna throw my tv out of the window too
BlueEyedSarah Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 BrianG, Everyone suffers NC diffrently but just hang in there because NC really does help! Even if it takes a long time for you to feel better (months, years) don't give up, be strong and you will feel powerful inside
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