i'd like peoples opinions on this

[faithinchaos]

i'm 22, have known this girl whos the same age as me since we were teenagers

have always been kind of keen on her, but never really did anything about it

a few years back she went out with a couple of my friends, thats long over.

i lost interest in her for a while for whatever reasons

 

but recently in the past 12 month's i've found myself growing very fond of her, i've moved cities so in the past 12 months i've seen her very little

but recently she was in my new city for the weekend, which i was quite excited about

she came with 7 workmates, all male, but didnt seem all that keen or interested in hanging out with them while she was here, i seemed to get the impression she liked hanging out with me and was excited to see me again

since she went back home i was hoping i would hear something back, like just an SMS or something

 

i'm not the best of looking guys, or rich

but i've really cleaned my act up since moving, got a good job, have sorted my life out, when i was back home i was unemployed and going through a tough time

 

basically what i wanna know is

a) how can i find out her feelings for sure, without asking her straight up

 

b) what are some tell tale behaviours / actions she would've used while she was here to let me know we're 'only friends'

 

things that gave me the impression she might be interested

she sent me an SMS before she left, saying my sweet i arrive at 6pm

 

she invited me to her hotel room 2 of 3 nights she was here, i'm not sure on that one though, simply because she was sharing a big apartment with everyone else, so she mightve just been inviting me up as a friend

 

she seemed genuinely happy to see me

 

any help appreciated

[NEONINK]

Let her know, it was great to see her again.

 

Don't be shy about that. If she's interested, she'll get the hint. If she's not, she'll be flattered and you made her day.

 

Either way, you did something nice.

 

And as I wrote in a post earlier, I would take honesty and character over money any day!

[Tony T]

1. a) how can i find out her feelings for sure, without asking her straight up

 

No way. If you haven't got the balls to ask her out, date her and let the relationship evolve, you don't deserve her. And if you don't get your self esteem up about your looks and your employment status, you won't have a chance with this lady. Start thinking positive and, most of all, BE A MAN!!! Go after what you desire or you will be stomped on all the days of your life.

 

1. b) what are some tell tale behaviours / actions she would've used while she was here to let me know we're 'only friends'

 

Hey, nobody here has ever met the girl in our lives so how are we supposed to know that. You have to use your own gut feeling and intution. If you have no gut feeling at all about the matter, there is no better way to get this information than directly from her.

 

Once you talk to her, all doubt will be gone. I still think you need to call her, start seeing her more, and get the relationship jump started. Just sitting around on your butt hoping she's going to fall for you is some kind of crazy.