Aarondreyer Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 Ok this is a good story and i dunno if it is true or not...i will give you my just after break up "Conspiracy" if you will...and obviously what COULD be happening and i am overlooking ok For the last 2 months my relationship (Has been going for a year and a half) has been crap...it all started one night when i annoyed her, and she decided to go to my lesbian friends house instead of mine....that was ok. But recently she has not been able to see me..(Near the end of the relationship) but could make time for this female friend...then she had four essays to do in one weekend but spent the whole weekend drunk (In the same bed as)...because they are woman, in bed with this other girl. this was the day before she left me! Now she has this "BIG" secret...she won't tell me but has told all her other friends, she says she doesn't know how i will react...one of my friends told me that it isn't really why we broke up but could be part of it .. on top of this today she snatched her phone back off me to "Check her messages..for any personal texts" ... and tonight she is spending a SCHOOL NIGHT with her (When she would never spend one with me) Now obviously here is what COULD be happening..at the moment she needs time to get over the relationship, i don't know what the big secret is..it could be just anything trivial...she might want to spend time with this girl because they are just good friends, and her parents are letting her stay instead of work because the lesbian is a friend of my girlfriend....they do flirt a lot but that was "Because i didn't like it" during the relationship. The lesbian has been good friends with me for some time now...and insists that nothing is happening..although i overheard her once say "I would deffinetly get off with my girlfriend...although not atm because Aaron wouldn't be happy about it" Am i just going crazy and it could all be nothing and all this covering up is just at the moment to show to her that i still care and she just needs this friend to comfort her..and this big secracy thing is just "I am not coping well" Or am i right to think "This is all a bit too secrative"...two of her best friends have agreed that they flirt too much. Please help me out (Sorry this was so long) but i am going to the pub with them tonight...kinda to see if there is still any flirting after we have broken up..it is obvious to see. so i will post back after that. What do u guys think...a broken heart looking too much into this "Secret you might react badly to"...or a real reason to be worried?
Elyssa Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 The only way to know for sure is asking her. You obviously have plenty of reason to believe that she may be involved with the other woman so I would go ahead and ask her. Remember though, she is no longer your girlfriend and owes you no explanation of who she sleeps with so don't be judgmental. -E
Author Aarondreyer Posted December 10, 2007 Author Posted December 10, 2007 Of course but it is hard to understand why she dumped me...and this "Secret" is now even harder to understand...she doesn't owe me an explanation..but some closure would be nice and i feel this is the last thing before i start getting over it Today i have been thinking about it though..she has told three people now, and no one can keep there mouths shut for long at college so eventually i will know and until then i am going to adopt an "I don't care" attitude about the entire thing, i get the feeling she is just enjoying the whole thing way to much, and if i leave it she might ease up
Author Aarondreyer Posted December 11, 2007 Author Posted December 11, 2007 yep she phoned me up tonight and said she has been in a realtionship with the woman, has fancied her for a long time. see new thread to see how i am coping
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