nykal Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 I just called my ex to finally talk for the last time. I asked him some questions, yelled a little... Not feeling all that better, though. Actually, I'm feeling kinda humiliated For all those happy people who are now over their ex's, how did you get your closure? How long was the relationship and how long did it take for you to finally move on? I'm sure it could give LS readers some inspiration. Or at least me, at any rate =(
desertguy Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 Don't know if I'm exactly a happy person (yet), as I'm still not over my ex, but it really varies I think in relation to how deep and involved the relationship was, and also the length. If it has only been a few months, around a month or so usually. My last long term relationship (2 years) , I started casually dating after about 6 months, and I was totally over it after about a year.
VenusInFurs Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 I'm pretty much over my ex (although I still miss him some days) and it took six months. I never got closure from him, which was frustrating, as the 'whys!?' worsened the misery of heartbreak. I did desperately try to get closure, talking to the ex for what I thought would be the 'last time'. Personally I think he was not willing to be truthful because he was too busy playing mind games with me. And probably, to alleviate the guilt he was feeling for dumping me, giving me fake reasons (and I know their fake because they made absolutely no sense whatsoever) such as a more elaborate version of the 'it's not you it's me', although his reason for leaving changed every five minutes. I got closure myself: he just didn't love me enough. It was unbearable to accept months ago, but now I don't really care.
stepheine Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 I think the best way to get over it is NC. It is funny b/C it is difficult to do but the quickest way to move on.
Lee725 Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 The next few days will be very hard. try to stay strong, try tnot to call or TXT even if you have "just one last question". The urge to call and txt do eventually go away. For me the urges to contact are quicker to go away than the outright pining for them. I just answered another question like this in another thread, so i will break it down for this one: 3yrs + normally 12 months to recover. 6 Months below normally a month to recover. For me depends on what the emotional connection was like with them and obviously it is not always this clear cut. One of my ex's (i was with him over 3 years), and i are friends now, but it has taken 10 years to get here (he married 2X kids now). You will be different and unique to just about everyone on here are to how long it is going to take you to move on and be "over it". Your methods to "get over it", will be different too, the important thing is that you will (eventually), you will never forget what has happened to you and perhaps in some way you will always carry it with you. The basis of - life experience.
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