loveinlife Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 im going to start my first day of NC. I will be strong n move on from this if i ever want to heal my wounds. 1.) put all items that reminds me of her away. 2.) delete her cell phone number. 3.) exercise. 4.) healthier diet 5.) new wardrobe 6.) find new activities to do. 7.) build on my financial side of life. 8.) hang out more with friends. 9.) spend more time with family. 10.) dont contact her.
ninjaturtles Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 It wont be very easy but it will help you heal. Look at it like you are trying to stop an addiction..Yes, take it that serious! Post here as much as you can to let us know how you are doing, how the days are going. No matter what, dont look back and dont forget the reasons for NC, that way you will fight off thr iurge to break it. Goodluck. xx
Author loveinlife Posted December 10, 2007 Author Posted December 10, 2007 Thanks ninja, its very hard to be doing other things right now. i guess i need to get used to the adjustment. ussually monday mornings, i would be talking to her while she is driving to go see her aunt. talk about her school, weather, traffic, and also every day life. i just miss those moments.
Author loveinlife Posted December 11, 2007 Author Posted December 11, 2007 still contiueing NC, my day has been up and down. emotionally. feeling like i need a mental break.
Surfer Girl Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 If you are really serious... you will experience the withdrawal symptoms... As each minuet... each day goes by... it may get somewhat easier... It will not be easy.... You can put it on paper... but living it... will be hard... Just post away when you feel you want to contact... Others know and will respond
XxBacktoBlackXx Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Best of luck! I decided to initiate this the other day as well!
AriaIncognito Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 It's tough but it truly does work. I was NC for like 4 or 5 months and it really did help me move forward. I still have thoughts of him, but not nearly as often, and I dont want him in my life as strongly as I once did. I know in time, I'll let go totally. I say "was" only because we have exchanged a few emails, of neutral nature, not talking about much of anything, in the past month. Maybe 3 or 4. I believe he's in a relationship, but well, I dont want to hurt myself so I don't ask. Try to stay strong. The first few weeks are the hardest. Before you know it, you make it a month and you're really proud. Then you stop realizing you've made it another month. I guess around month 3 I wasn't marking the days. We are here if you need us :-)
Author loveinlife Posted December 11, 2007 Author Posted December 11, 2007 If you are really serious... you will experience the withdrawal symptoms... As each minuet... each day goes by... it may get somewhat easier... It will not be easy.... You can put it on paper... but living it... will be hard... Just post away when you feel you want to contact... Others know and will respond [FONT=Arial]I felt the withdrawal symptoms for a week already, today is still sorta like that as mentioned in the above posts. I went from missing her, to the memories of what we did together, to is she talking to any guys, to what happened and what went wrong, then realizing what is the problem, find out how she felt if i was in her shoes when we had our problem, recieved my karma while being hurt from speculating to be in her shoes, to calling her that i am so sorry i did that i finally understand what a jerk i was. Being understanding allowed me to know how the relationship ended why i pushed her away. I needed to tell her that bc it was my only resolution to my own guilt. I then tried to initiate contact to see if she still want to see me after one week of breakup and small chats here and there. Only to find out that she said i can only talk to her and seeing her right now is not a good idea. From that point on, i know what situation im in, it is her game now, if i want to get her back and to respect her, i need to listen to what she tells me. It is no guarantee for anything just not allowing myself to push her to hate me. I don't want to burn any bridges. Today is my first NC as you know, just happy that i learned so much from this relationship. [/FONT] Best of luck! I decided to initiate this the other day as well! Hope you are doing well Back, btw nice pic =) It's tough but it truly does work. I was NC for like 4 or 5 months and it really did help me move forward. I still have thoughts of him, but not nearly as often, and I dont want him in my life as strongly as I once did. I know in time, I'll let go totally. I say "was" only because we have exchanged a few emails, of neutral nature, not talking about much of anything, in the past month. Maybe 3 or 4. I believe he's in a relationship, but well, I dont want to hurt myself so I don't ask. Try to stay strong. The first few weeks are the hardest. Before you know it, you make it a month and you're really proud. Then you stop realizing you've made it another month. I guess around month 3 I wasn't marking the days. We are here if you need us :-) Thanks aria, good to hear from you again. Always so supportive and positive. luv loveinlife
Author loveinlife Posted December 11, 2007 Author Posted December 11, 2007 If you are really serious... you will experience the withdrawal symptoms... As each minuet... each day goes by... it may get somewhat easier... It will not be easy.... You can put it on paper... but living it... will be hard... Just post away when you feel you want to contact... Others know and will respond [FONT=Arial]I felt the withdrawal symptoms for a week already, today is still sorta like that as mentioned in the above posts. I went from missing her, to the memories of what we did together, to is she talking to any guys, to what happened and what went wrong, then realizing what is the problem, find out how she felt if i was in her shoes when we had our problem, recieved my karma while being hurt from speculating to be in her shoes, to calling her that i am so sorry i did that i finally understand what a jerk i was. Being understanding allowed me to know how the relationship ended why i pushed her away. I needed to tell her that bc it was my only resolution to my own guilt. I then tried to initiate contact to see if she still want to see me after one week of breakup and small chats here and there. Only to find out that she said i can only talk to her and seeing her right now is not a good idea. From that point on, i know what situation im in, it is her game now, if i want to get her back and to respect her, i need to listen to what she tells me. It is no guarantee for anything just not allowing myself to push her to hate me. I don't want to burn any bridges. Today is my first NC as you know, just happy that i learned so much from this relationship. [/FONT] Best of luck! I decided to initiate this the other day as well! Hope you are doing well Back, btw nice pic =) It's tough but it truly does work. I was NC for like 4 or 5 months and it really did help me move forward. I still have thoughts of him, but not nearly as often, and I dont want him in my life as strongly as I once did. I know in time, I'll let go totally. I say "was" only because we have exchanged a few emails, of neutral nature, not talking about much of anything, in the past month. Maybe 3 or 4. I believe he's in a relationship, but well, I dont want to hurt myself so I don't ask. Try to stay strong. The first few weeks are the hardest. Before you know it, you make it a month and you're really proud. Then you stop realizing you've made it another month. I guess around month 3 I wasn't marking the days. We are here if you need us :-) Thanks aria, good to hear from you again. Always so supportive and positive. luv loveinlife
Author loveinlife Posted December 11, 2007 Author Posted December 11, 2007 If you are really serious... you will experience the withdrawal symptoms... As each minuet... each day goes by... it may get somewhat easier... It will not be easy.... You can put it on paper... but living it... will be hard... Just post away when you feel you want to contact... Others know and will respond [FONT=Arial]I felt the withdrawal symptoms for a week already, today is still sorta like that as mentioned in the above posts. I went from missing her, to the memories of what we did together, to is she talking to any guys, to what happened and what went wrong, then realizing what is the problem, find out how she felt if i was in her shoes when we had our problem, recieved my karma while being hurt from speculating to be in her shoes, to calling her that i am so sorry i did that i finally understand what a jerk i was. Being understanding allowed me to know how the relationship ended why i pushed her away. I needed to tell her that bc it was my only resolution to my own guilt. I then tried to initiate contact to see if she still want to see me after one week of breakup and small chats here and there. Only to find out that she said i can only talk to her and seeing her right now is not a good idea. From that point on, i know what situation im in, it is her game now, if i want to get her back and to respect her, i need to listen to what she tells me. It is no guarantee for anything just not allowing myself to push her to hate me. I don't want to burn any bridges. Today is my first NC as you know, just happy that i learned so much from this relationship. [/FONT] Best of luck! I decided to initiate this the other day as well! Hope you are doing well Back, btw nice pic =) It's tough but it truly does work. I was NC for like 4 or 5 months and it really did help me move forward. I still have thoughts of him, but not nearly as often, and I dont want him in my life as strongly as I once did. I know in time, I'll let go totally. I say "was" only because we have exchanged a few emails, of neutral nature, not talking about much of anything, in the past month. Maybe 3 or 4. I believe he's in a relationship, but well, I dont want to hurt myself so I don't ask. Try to stay strong. The first few weeks are the hardest. Before you know it, you make it a month and you're really proud. Then you stop realizing you've made it another month. I guess around month 3 I wasn't marking the days. We are here if you need us :-) Thanks aria, good to hear from you again. Always so supportive and positive. luv loveinlife
Author loveinlife Posted December 11, 2007 Author Posted December 11, 2007 day is almost ending and i feel like im doing somewhat better.
Author loveinlife Posted December 11, 2007 Author Posted December 11, 2007 Sorry for the two extra posts, im using a friends computer that is acting up. =/ If you are really serious... you will experience the withdrawal symptoms... As each minuet... each day goes by... it may get somewhat easier... It will not be easy.... You can put it on paper... but living it... will be hard... Just post away when you feel you want to contact... Others know and will respond Best of luck! I decided to initiate this the other day as well! It's tough but it truly does work. I was NC for like 4 or 5 months and it really did help me move forward. I still have thoughts of him, but not nearly as often, and I dont want him in my life as strongly as I once did. I know in time, I'll let go totally. I say "was" only because we have exchanged a few emails, of neutral nature, not talking about much of anything, in the past month. Maybe 3 or 4. I believe he's in a relationship, but well, I dont want to hurt myself so I don't ask. Try to stay strong. The first few weeks are the hardest. Before you know it, you make it a month and you're really proud. Then you stop realizing you've made it another month. I guess around month 3 I wasn't marking the days. We are here if you need us :-)
spookie Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Hey, good job on your decision! It's tough and it may not help you "move on" in the sense that you are over here, but it WILL help you find yourself and your self respect again, which is even more important. Besides, remaining in contact after a relationship has REALLY ended and there is no hope for a happily ever after (and REALLY, it ends at breakup #1) is pointless. You're just prolonging the pain. Keep writing, we are here for you.
Author loveinlife Posted December 11, 2007 Author Posted December 11, 2007 day 2 of NC, im finally realized that if i loved her, i will give her the freedom to choose what she wants to do. constant calling her will not help get her back. it will only give her a sine of guilt and i'll lose my respect. To me this gift is so wonderful, it is the most important gift every person on this world has. I feel that i was too attached to her and this freedom that she now has is going to benifit her. I can't be sad that it ended on this aftermath. Hopefully she will come to terms and want to see me more than a friend. Actually for some odd reason, I have a feeling that she is going to come visit me really soon. Its one of those, instincts and feeling. Im not sure, what do you guys think? ever had one of those? first time to know about a certain actual future, its like a belief, im not sure if i make sense, please give me some feed back please. thanks =)
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