4givrnt4gtr Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 So... What would you think if a guy you're seeing does the following to you in the span of a week. 1) Takes you to a bar with his friends, leaves you in the bar by yourself to have a smoke...takes forever. 2) After you drunkendly go to the lady;s room to cry cuz ur too drunk and it pissed u off he left you there, you go outside ready to go home but he stops you asking where you've been all this time cuz he's been looking for you. Proves it by asking all his friends if he hadnt asked them about you all that time. (he doesnt know u were crying!!) 3) He introduces you as his "friend"...(there's another post about that, which i was told not to worry) 3) You sense he is a bit put off the next day, but wont tell you he;s upset. He still kisses you and plays around, but still get the vibe he's upset until much later in the night 4) You spend the next day together all day and he tells you he might come back the following day at night to your place to watch a movie.. 5) the following day he doenst call all day to say whether the movie is gonna happen or not. Although u know his phone is dead u still leave a message...which he doesnt answer to. 6) After he finally calls back (5 hours after the first message) he says he forgot about the movie, since we hadnt said it was for sure. He sounds kinda distracted and not too excited to talk, so he cuts the call quick. What int he world is going on!!!! Any inputs welcome...I know i tend to overanalyze...but wouldnt you???
truckdriving Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 Your situation seems eerily like one I went through awhile back with my fiance. I found out later that she was cheating on me. That may not be the case with you but I would definitely be suspicious. But I may be to cynical. How long have you been with this guy?
truckdriving Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 If I were in your situation I would ingore him for awhile and see what his reaction is
allina Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 You cried because he took a long time outside having a smoke? To me that's a HUGE overly dramatic reaction, you were that upset that he stepped outside of the bar for too long? Why didn't you just go outside to join him if you didn't want to be left alone? Normally I would say that his behavior is shady but with your over reacting it's hard to tell. How long have you been with him?
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted December 10, 2007 Author Posted December 10, 2007 Your situation seems eerily like one I went through awhile back with my fiance. I found out later that she was cheating on me. That may not be the case with you but I would definitely be suspicious. But I may be to cynical. How long have you been with this guy? We've been together for six months. I dont think he is cheating...just doesnt seem like the type. Plus he doesnt really hide me from anyone (although that introduction as friend pissed me off...fortunately he corrected himseld right away). so all his friends know im with him and like me. I dont know if me bringing up that I definitely want him to introduce me as his gf (we hadnt discuss the issue til he introduced me as his friend) freaked him out...or maybe im just overanalyzing...again. I dont know
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted December 10, 2007 Author Posted December 10, 2007 You cried because he took a long time outside having a smoke? To me that's a HUGE overly dramatic reaction, you were that upset that he stepped outside of the bar for too long? Why didn't you just go outside to join him if you didn't want to be left alone? Normally I would say that his behavior is shady but with your over reacting it's hard to tell. How long have you been with him? Haha yeah I realized that the next day when the drunken fog had lifted...(thank god i didnt let him know that) but I still wondered why he left me alone knowing I dont know anyone there. But what worries me the most is his behavior afterwards...just kinda cold and quiet...but then tries to keep kissing me and (i feel) pretending everything is ok. Then he forgets he told me about going to the movie... I dont know just kinda weird... But then again I may be just too sensitive...I dont know (hence why im asking your opinion!)
allina Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 Haha yeah I realized that the next day when the drunken fog had lifted...(thank god i didnt let him know that) but I still wondered why he left me alone knowing I dont know anyone there. But what worries me the most is his behavior afterwards...just kinda cold and quiet...but then tries to keep kissing me and (i feel) pretending everything is ok. Then he forgets he told me about going to the movie... I dont know just kinda weird... But then again I may be just too sensitive...I dont know (hence why im asking your opinion!) Are you guys going through any issues that may be causing him to be more distant? It could be a lot of things but as long as he's trying to show you love I wouldn't worry about it just yet. And I forgot to mention one thing, before, I sometimes do what your bf did at the bar. I smoke on occasion, especially if I'm at a bar drinking and I'll go outside, start talking, space out and be gone forever
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted December 10, 2007 Author Posted December 10, 2007 Are you guys going through any issues that may be causing him to be more distant? It could be a lot of things but as long as he's trying to show you love I wouldn't worry about it just yet. And I forgot to mention one thing, before, I sometimes do what your bf did at the bar. I smoke on occasion, especially if I'm at a bar drinking and I'll go outside, start talking, space out and be gone forever Hm no no problems at all, we've been doing great, the only thing that came up that night was the whole "friend/girlfriend" issue. Maybe thats why he's acting like this??? I know you can space out and stuff...but, and I guess thats what drunkendly drove me to tears, am I really that unimportant that he would forget I was there?, and by a long time i dont mean 5 minutes, I mean a good half an hour...then again as you said I could have just gone outside... But im retarded and dramatic sometimes, specially with alcohol in me
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