Always_Sawee Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 hello guys! i just need advice on something. a week ago my girlfriend ask to have space from our relationship. i ask why? and she told me that she wants to enjoy herself with her friends. last night. i asked her if she still loves me and told me she does but not sure if she wants to stay with me. so now im really confused and depressed because i really love this woman. weve been dating for six months but now shes no even texting or calling me anymore. i dont know if shes with her friends or dating someone else. she also told me that im also intervening with her regarding when she goes out with her friends which i dont do. i just ask her when shes going home or where shes at. i dont know im really confused now. i begged her to stay to work things out. she then tells me not to call and just text her. . i really love her. . but i dont knowif she still loves me. . what will i do? thank you. .
Lee725 Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 hello guys! i just need advice on something. a week ago my girlfriend ask to have space from our relationship. i ask why? and she told me that she wants to enjoy herself with her friends. How old is she? (age does not matter in relationships), but if she has just become old enough to go out to pubs she might be seeing a new light to life she wants to experience. (i know this is no comfort to you). Sometimes this is the truth, people do need time with their friends, unfortunately sometimes people do use it as a cop out to get out of relationships, only she knows the truth in this instance. last night. i asked her if she still loves me and told me she does but not sure if she wants to stay with me.. This is one of my personal favourites "I love you, but not sure if it is enough to be with you"! AARRRGGGGHHHhhhhhh.... This statement is selfish and it sucks, cause it leaves the dumpee with the feeling of "she might come back if she loves me just that little bit". Some people call this honesty, i call it B**S**T, It is really unfair to leave someone hanging especially if they know that you care about them. so now im really confused and depressed because i really love this woman. weve been dating for six months but now shes no even texting or calling me anymore. i dont know if shes with her friends or dating someone else. she also told me that im also intervening with her regarding when she goes out with her friends which i dont do. i just ask her when shes going home or where shes at. i dont know im really confused now. i begged her to stay to work things out. she then tells me not to call and just text her. . i really love her. . but i dont knowif she still loves me. . what will i do? thank you. . You might have to walk away from this one for your own sanity. She has placed constraints on contact by saying "not to call and just text her". Perhaps taking command of the situation yourself by saying: "Ok, please dont call or TXT me untill you know what you want". But please think of the consequences of this course of action.... This can be a double edged sword tho because you will have time to yourself to sort out what you want, but also to you may find yourself hovering over the phone waiting for it to ring. Staying in contact with her at this time is probably not the best course of action because it is likely that you will not be able to coerce her to be with you. (besides, would you want her if she was "forced" to be with you). If she does want to be with you again she will have to find that out for herself and any pushing that you do may in fact push her further away. It is truthful that some people do need a little "time out" for their own real purpose (not to cheat or flirt). I dont practice it personally because to me it does seem a little selfish, but obviously i do not represent everyone. Take some time out for you, a few weeks of NC might do you both the world of good, even tho when you are broken up one week of NC can seem like an eternity let alone a couple of them. Any time you get the urge to call/txt her come on here first and purge it out, it helps heaps and there is a world of people on her only to willing to offer you all the help you want. Keep us posted and i hope that it works out for you
Krytie TV Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 No one will be able to convince you of this, but she just does not seem to want to be with you anymore. If she'd rather spend time "with friends" (i.e., meeting other guys) there is nothing you can do expect sacrifice your self-respect by pursuing her.
Author Always_Sawee Posted December 10, 2007 Author Posted December 10, 2007 thank you guys for the advice especially to you Lee . i will surely keep you posted . thank you again. . .
johnrogers Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 Sorry that this happened. I think that it has happened to most of us at one time or another. Sometimes it seems that just coming out and saying what you feel is the best thing to do but it is difficult. That is probably why they are being elusive.
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