London Girl Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 If someone dumps you because they are not ready for a relationship (my ex had a messy breakup and had been single for 4.5 months before dating me) and then makes contact, first by email to wish me a happy birthday and then a week later by texting me to say he is out with a friend and his friend apparently knows me, does this mean that the dumper is still interested in me? I'm just so confused by all of this. I thought it was usually the dumpee that initates the contact. I have stuck with no contact and have only replied when he has initiated the contact. We only dated for just over a month so do not understand why he is still contacting me since he dumped me. We did not end on a bad note either. I just respected his wishes and went no contact. I do want this guy back but don't know how to handle him and his random contact. Should I be patient until he sorts his head out?
Phateless Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 He kinda told you what he wants. He doesn't want a relationship but probably still wants to hang out. He most likely wants to be fwb. You have an executive decision to make. You are ok with this or you are not. If you are not, you have another executive decision to make. Are you strictly friends or are you going to not see him at all? You have to make the decision and then stick to it, unless your feelings change. If you're looking for a full-on relationship this guy will probably just end up hurting you.
Author London Girl Posted December 10, 2007 Author Posted December 10, 2007 Thanks for your advice Phateless. I just found out that he is still logging on and being active on the dating site we met on. I'm so mad especially since he contacted me last week. He is one selfish arrogant twat! Does he not think that I will not check up on him. To tell me that he wants to end it because "he is not ready for relationship" yet he is still active on his dating site - does he not know that by me finding out will hurt me! He has played me with emotions and has hurt me. Why chase and shower me with lots of affection and false hopes if he is not bloody looking for a relationship. I deserve better than this. I hope he meets a bunny boiler who screws him up.
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