stepheine Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 So now I am single again!! Friends are supportive, my mother makes me feel like a failure at relationships, it is difficult not to feel like a failure because somehow I keep getting all in only to get disappointed. No one around me understands why I am still single. I get a lot of pressure at the work place about this, from family and friends, and as soon as I am single I do have a lot of date offers. I guess on the outside I am what most guys think they want but something about me when they get to know me must suck, and I am taking it personally!!!! I feel like everyone wants there turn but no one just wants to truly love me. Why??? I feel like I am a good person and when this dating thing is all said and done I don't want to have given my heart to 1000 men!!! How do I prevent this, how do I know who really cares and who is feeding me trash just to get what they want. I am a fairly "good" girl so most guys probably feel like they have to lie to me to get anywhere with me, but how do I know its true and how do I find the one who cares. I feel helpless dating another guy only to put trust in him and having my heart smashed. I do like to look at the world as a better place than what it is and I do trust people a lot, have a big caring heart, just tired of giving it to the wrong guy. I do feel taken advantage of and stupid, and I want a guy to see and appreciate me for who I am. Any pointers. My self-esteem is in the toilet, I care little about looks what about me as a person I want to scream at these guys, what about my feelings!!!!!!! I am a person with feelings.
michael d Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 aloha. sorry to hear about your situation. i feel for you. it is very difficult to ever know if it is right starting a new relationship. sounds like alot of guys are interested, so keep your self esteem up, where it should be. and concentrate less on finding the perfect guy, and more on finding the perfect YOU. do what you love, have fun, work on being more confident with yourself and good things will come your way. hang in there, you will be fine i'm sure. takes time. good luck ! mike d
VenusInFurs Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 You sound like an awesome person. I must say your post is quite Bridget Jones. If a lot of men are interested in you, then you must be an attractive woman. Perhaps some men don't see past your exterior attractiveness to your personality. I agree with michael d, don't concentrate and dwell on finding 'the one'. Work on being happy being single. Concentrate on yourself, not men. Before you know it the right guy will come along. Good luck
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