Aussie65 Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 I am still hanging in on my LDR....God knows!My man ended up going way out west to a small town where he has no service on his mobile....I can call the hotel where he is staying and speak with him. He has called me while at work through the day on his phone which has been good and sent me pics etc....so I called up the place he is staying and the barmaid answered the phone.She started telling me he was the town hero and how he helped some damzel change a tire etc the night before...my insecurities kicked in as he had not told me anything about it...i know,crazy huh?.So I asked the barmaid SILLY ME...if he was doing the right thing by me there,that he had not been with any women....i told her i was scared and moving to live with him and was a bit worried about this...just a woman to woman conversation and asked her not to say anything when she reassured me everything was fine...I felt releaved. He phoned me up from a public phone last night,apparently she told him and for what reason?....I know I should have said nothing but what on earth has this woman got to gain by causing more trouble for us even a possible breakup?...I am questioning her motives on this one now and wonder why should would say anything. I have managed a hotel and worked as a barmaid for years and there are just things you dont relay to others and that is one of them.She is working on his good side and why??is she interested in him or just out to cause trouble for us?..
dancinggal Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 Aussie, you need to kick this guy to the curb. Seriously. He doesn't seem to bring you anything but troubles and worries. I'm not sure why the barmaid would have told him that, but it makes you look really insecure to him. Let him go, move on. There are so many guys out there, you don't need to be with one who you don't trust and is so far away. Its time to move on sweetheart!
purplebubbles Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 Hon, You need to let go of this relationship. If you had to ask the question to a complete stranger whether your significant other had been cheating on you, what does that say to you? That you don't trust him. You can't have a long distant relationship without that vital ingredient. Hell, it's hard enough having a regular, normal relationship without trust. The barmaid probably told your boyfriend what you had said, as they are pretty serious allegations that you made against his conduct. She probably feels as though he is her friend and felt duty to pass this information on to him, so that he knew the full extent of what is happening with you. I am not sure why you are hanging on to this relationship? Does he make you happy in anyway?.. when you look at the calander, are there more days that you are pleased to be him and truly happy with your relationship than days where you feel unloved and insecure?
EYECANDY000 Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 I dont think that the bar maid was reveling the conversation because she is interested in him. I think that she feels like she knows him and knows his character and dont know you at all. She may just told him , not out of spite, but told him your g/f seems a little unsure about the relationship. I think if i was in the same situation and you asked me all these questions about him, depending on if i am close to this person or not, i will tell them the whole conversation as well. No one like to be in the middle of anyones relationship especially if they are forced in to it.
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