asilisa Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 So I've been posting for about a month and a half now and I just recently learned something through an old post on LS. I came across a post about Narcissistic Personality Disorders and decided to do some research about it. I read alot of information about NPD and it seems like those websites could have been written about my ex boyfriend. Right now I am just so confused. It is like I was in a relationship with someone who was fake. And this was no short relationship - it was four years! How could I continue to be in this type of relationship for so long...letting him suck me dry. And the only reason he left was because I started to put up a fight and wasn't doing everything to make him happy anymore (and so I was useless). It does make me feel better to know that there wasn't anything wrong with me like he had said but still I feel so confused. I'm not even sure if I love him anymore since the whole relationship was obviously fake. And I know he'll move onto his next victim(this makes me feel bad for the person) and it explains how he moves from relationship to relationship so easily. I always knew something was wrong...but I wasn't really sure what. It is nice to know exactly what the problem was but like I said now I know the relationship was fake. It is like waking up out of a dream...the last four years were a dream. How doesn't anyone else in his life know this about him? He treats all of his relationships the same. If the person isn't doing what he wants they are "worthless" a "waste of time". I guess I just want to get my thoughts out and to warn other people about this personality disorder because I knew nothing about it. Just not sure how to move on from this... Has anyone else been in this kind of relationship? -Lisa
Rowen Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 I don't know the whole history of my ex's relationships but I feel she most likely has been doing htis. Judging by how clingy she was, and moving so fast to get a stable relationship with me right away, I'm guessing she came out of a bad one before or just needed someone new to cling on to as well. IT makes me sad, becuase she's most likely just doing this to the new guy she's dating. She has baggage for sure, and I was able to put up with it for the longest of anyone she has ev er dated and she dumped me... it hurts because I care and love her so much.
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