kymberann Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 ....Can make you stronger! Hi there, I usually lurk around here but was pretty active on this forum due to being in an A with a MM. I just want to give support and encouragement to others who were once in my similar circumstance, and just know that altough the pain of an A can be unbearable at the time, especially through the break up, in the long run you come out so far ahead and ready to stand up for yourself! It just takes time. So here goes.. I have a male friend wo is married. We talk and what not but the other day he pulled me aside and said to me "if I werent' married you and I would be incredible/getting in on". I knew this was a set up and he was testing to see what I do with it. I just replied "until you are no longer married and it isn't an issue, it could be a possibility" with a big ol' fat smile on my face! When he said that the first immediate emotions that came up were all the dread and pain and self-doubt that I felt when I was on the low end of the A. Almost felt like a post traumatic response. I never want to go there again and I quickly put an end to that! I am so proud of NOT falling in to the trap again. The A took its toll and what I really learned is what I am willing and not willing to put up with, even from single guys. So hang in there and know that with pain and growth comes strength! Best!
Onelife Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 ....Can make you stronger! Hi there, I usually lurk around here but was pretty active on this forum due to being in an A with a MM. I just want to give support and encouragement to others who were once in my similar circumstance, and just know that altough the pain of an A can be unbearable at the time, especially through the break up, in the long run you come out so far ahead and ready to stand up for yourself! It just takes time. So here goes.. I have a male friend wo is married. We talk and what not but the other day he pulled me aside and said to me "if I werent' married you and I would be incredible/getting in on". I knew this was a set up and he was testing to see what I do with it. I just replied "until you are no longer married and it isn't an issue, it could be a possibility" with a big ol' fat smile on my face! When he said that the first immediate emotions that came up were all the dread and pain and self-doubt that I felt when I was on the low end of the A. Almost felt like a post traumatic response. I never want to go there again and I quickly put an end to that! I am so proud of NOT falling in to the trap again. The A took its toll and what I really learned is what I am willing and not willing to put up with, even from single guys. So hang in there and know that with pain and growth comes strength! Best! Hi Kym, I so agree with you! Yes, what does not kill me makes me that much stronger! I've learned so much from my A and nevr want to go there again. I now know exactly how to handle this kind of trap and what I am willing and not willing to put up with! Thank you for putting this kind of strength into words.
Author kymberann Posted December 9, 2007 Author Posted December 9, 2007 Hi One life Thanks for replying! We have been through a lot. I remember your posts! Let's keep up the support, there is strength in numbers! Best, Kim
Meaplus3 Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 ....Can make you stronger! Hi there, I usually lurk around here but was pretty active on this forum due to being in an A with a MM. I just want to give support and encouragement to others who were once in my similar circumstance, and just know that altough the pain of an A can be unbearable at the time, especially through the break up, in the long run you come out so far ahead and ready to stand up for yourself! It just takes time. So here goes.. I have a male friend wo is married. We talk and what not but the other day he pulled me aside and said to me "if I werent' married you and I would be incredible/getting in on". I knew this was a set up and he was testing to see what I do with it. I just replied "until you are no longer married and it isn't an issue, it could be a possibility" with a big ol' fat smile on my face! When he said that the first immediate emotions that came up were all the dread and pain and self-doubt that I felt when I was on the low end of the A. Almost felt like a post traumatic response. I never want to go there again and I quickly put an end to that! I am so proud of NOT falling in to the trap again. The A took its toll and what I really learned is what I am willing and not willing to put up with, even from single guys. So hang in there and know that with pain and growth comes strength! Best! Kymberann, That's so great:bunny: that you were able to walk away here. Your very strong! Glad to hear your doing well, I miss your post's. Hug's. AP:)
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