lovesparis Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 today is 4 months since he broke up with me. i miss him still. i had a date last night. very affectionate, great kisser, flirtatious ... and not my ex. he came over and watched a movie at my place. sitting on the couch with him, i felt like i was cheating. it was terrible.
sedgwick Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 I hear ya. This week is 5 months since mine dumped me. I can't even imagine going on a date! It feels like I'll never love anyone again.
SmileyFace82 Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 I know how you are feeling. I am really missing my ex recently and it's been over 3 months since we split. I don't know why this has happened now but i guess part of the reason is reality kicking in that i will never get back with her again...she's happy and i'm depressed. I can't even fathom dating other girls at the moment, and she is happy with her bf. Why is this? They have moved on...why can't we?!
bustertypsy Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 I know how you are feeling. I am really missing my ex recently and it's been over 3 months since we split. I don't know why this has happened now but i guess part of the reason is reality kicking in that i will never get back with her again...she's happy and i'm depressed. I can't even fathom dating other girls at the moment, and she is happy with her bf. Why is this? They have moved on...why can't we?! Did she rebound to her current boyfriend,or leave you for him? If she left you for him,then her day will come around,when she will pay for what she did to you.If she is rebounding,then chances are high that it will not last.Maybe then when you have moved on,she will only begin to realise what she has thrown away.It may not happen like this,but there is a good chance she will realise what she had with you.Only a heartless b***h could walk away unaffected.
Author lovesparis Posted December 9, 2007 Author Posted December 9, 2007 It feels like I'll never love anyone again. i've gone out a couple times with new (and old) guys... i've tried to be open to them. it just doesn't feel right. i picture myself in 30 years, never having had another serious relationship, living alone with 7 cats. i don't feel like i'll ever meet anyone who fits me as well as he did, and that if i do get into another LT rel, that i'll feel like i'm just settling. and if that's the case, it's not fair to whatever guy i feel like i'm settling for. every other relationship i've had, i was ok when it ended. even the first time i thought i was in love. i've always had the opinion that 'if they don't want to be with me, i don't wnat to be with them' but not this time. i tried to this time, and i can't make that feeling happen. i've never given of myself to anyone in my life like i have with H. i don't think i've ever even cried over a breakup before. there is not an inch on my body that feels like this break up is the right thing. all my other R's i've believed happened for a purpose, that i was supposed to learn something. with H, even though i've learned tons about myself since the breakup, i still don't feel that was the purpose to our R. i really believe that we're suppsosed to be together. maybe i've watched too many movies, i don't know. everyday i want to call him or email him, everyday i want to tell him how i feel, to ask him to please try again.... but i know i can't do that until i'm strong enough to stand up to this other "friend" and get him out of my life. and i don't know why i can't do that, when i know how much i love H. oh hell, yes i do. i'm afraid. i'm afraid that even if i give L up, that H won't accept me back. and b/c it's easier not to have to work at something.
stepheine Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 Yes, I have felt this way also. And for the first couple of dates it may feel this way, trust me, esp. if you were very connected to your ex. But trust me, if you like this guy you went on a date with, cont. to see him, deal with these feelings and they will slowly dwindle away as you see real potential in someone else whether it be this current guy or not. You have to deal with these feelings and in my opinion the best way is to date, feel the sting, but cont. to date. The sooner you do this the better, the sooner you get over your ex and give your heart to the right person. Now make sure that the guy is a good guy and be as cautious as you can be cause you don't want to end up in the same position down the road. All I am saying is that sometimes we have to force ourselves to move on to someone else. Cause you want to be with someone who wants to be with you, and you don't want to have a person that doesn't want you to have your heart. Give your heart to someone who deserves it and who wants it.
SmileyFace82 Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 Did she rebound to her current boyfriend,or leave you for him? If she left you for him,then her day will come around,when she will pay for what she did to you.If she is rebounding,then chances are high that it will not last.Maybe then when you have moved on,she will only begin to realise what she has thrown away.It may not happen like this,but there is a good chance she will realise what she had with you.Only a heartless b***h could walk away unaffected. Hey cheers man, that helped. I think she basically left me for him as it's a colleague of hers and she'd got with him a week after she split up with me and they'd tried to hide the relationship for a while initially. Maybe it was for fun first, i don't know but they are still together etc. Maybe she is a heartless bitch, i don't really know... i hope not cause i don't think i am that bad a judge of character but it certainly feels as though she hasn't given me a second thought. I also don't think she feels guitly for anything she has done, plus the fact the last time we saw each other she was so cold with me it was unreal. I guess i need to start dating again too but it's just weird cause i don't think i will be a great date with the way i am at the moment. I just want to snap out of it and like Stepheine pointed out just give my heart to someone who deserves it and who wants it...
sedgwick Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 lovesparis, i just want to tell you that i understand EXACTLY how you feel! i've been bummed over breakups before, i've even cried, but this time was a whole new level of pain. i'm still crying five months later. i really felt when i met him like i'd met my soulmate. i felt like i'd met the person i wanted to share my life with forever. and i showed him more of myself than i've ever shown anyone. i told him all along that it was a big deal for me to open up to him and trust him, and that if he wanted to run, to do it early on. i said, "i'm not going here with you unless i know you're with me, it would break my heart too much." he assured me that it was okay, i could love him, we were good, we were together. and then all of a sudden one day he just dumped me, with a bullsh*t excuse, and now he's gone. i won't contact him, and i don't know if he's been trying to contact me, because i have his phone number, email addresses, and myspace blocked since august. the last time i spoke to him he was so cold to me. he was a person i didn't know. and i chose to walk away and end all contact. i struggle with whether or not to unblock him. i feel like, he knows where i live, let him come and find me. let him make an effort. i don't know...ugh. anyway, i'm with you, and there's someone else about a month ahead of you on this path. i'm not married to him but he was definitely the man i wanted to marry.
tysonhartnett Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 .i picture myself in 30 years, never having had another serious relationship, living alone with 7 cats. i don't feel like i'll ever meet anyone who fits me as well as he didquote] Genius, haha. I think that's how we'll end up eventually.
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