Magnatolia Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 Hi all, Okay one problem I have is finding things to talk about, especially on the phone when there's no cues or props around to talk about. I can usually keep talking for 3-5 minutes before I fumble. I'm also coming to the realisation that I take responsibility for the lack of talking fully, and I now realise that it's not necessarily all my fault. But ladies and guys, what do you talk about? Say the current topic has run dry and you have that horrible silence. What do you do to find something to talk about? I'm not so bad when it's face to face, I can always talk about something he/she has told me in the past, but yeah I hate those silences so any help is appreciated.
Pedigree Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 When I'm talking to someone on the phone and I run out of things to say, I usually just wrap it up. I might give that silence some time just to see if there's anything else I have to say but if I don't, I just wrap it up.
Meaplus3 Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Hi all, Okay one problem I have is finding things to talk about, especially on the phone when there's no cues or props around to talk about. I can usually keep talking for 3-5 minutes before I fumble. I'm also coming to the realisation that I take responsibility for the lack of talking fully, and I now realise that it's not necessarily all my fault. But ladies and guys, what do you talk about? Say the current topic has run dry and you have that horrible silence. What do you do to find something to talk about? I'm not so bad when it's face to face, I can always talk about something he/she has told me in the past, but yeah I hate those silences so any help is appreciated. You could talk about current world event's and add a little humor to it. Same thing for the day to day life talk. Make it funny, add a twist that is simply your own. It might take a bit of thought, but will be worth it at the end of the conversation, the person will want to talk with you again. Good luck. AP:)
ElvenPriestess Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 Most people make phone conversations longer than they should be. Keep it going until it's comfortable, than cut it off. If you don't have a problem talking in person for lengths of time, than you don't really have a problem, in my opinion.
Trialbyfire Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 Are these conversations with people you know well, new friends or romantic interests who you're trying to impress? Just relax when you're talking to people. The more you think about it, trying harder, the worse it gets. Also, there's a lifecyle to a conversation. Don't push it beyond its duration.
ElvenPriestess Posted December 16, 2007 Posted December 16, 2007 Like the bit about the life cycle and not pushing it TBF, good point. btw every time I read a post by you your avatar makes me REALLY hungry.
Trialbyfire Posted December 16, 2007 Posted December 16, 2007 Haha...it's the weekend, time for relaxing breakfasts. Let's see how many members I can get, to run out for Sunday brunch.
Author Magnatolia Posted December 19, 2007 Author Posted December 19, 2007 Thanks for the great replies. Yeah when it's someone I know fairly well I don't really have much of a problem. But it's getting a new person/stranger to that point that I have trouble with. I don't really try and 'impress' a girl if I like her. I just try and be myself, but yeah the main problem is finding things to talk about to keep the conversation alive. Especially when it's someone I don't know, I literally just freeze and get a mental blank. If it's someone I met at work then I'm not too bad because A) Work is an extensive topic to talk about and B) I can excuse myself when I run out of things to say.
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