whichwayisup Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Hmmm... am not married, but the married woman I'm involved with right now got busted by hubs when he was able to read my sweet messages to her... of course she convinced him that it didn't mean anything and downplayed it... he got mad and left for a couple of days, but came back with some "rules" about her staying away from my company and stopping our communication (which she's not doing, just being more discreet this time around)... there's a price to be paid too of course, like he's demanding that they do "it" everyday now, which wasn't the case before... of course, she has this technique for her to enjoy it too, like envision me as her partner during the deed... we haven't done "it" yet, so I really have no idea how she can imagine... but anyway she gets the results she wants... he's happy, she's happy... and we're still sharing sweet nothings over email, meeting each other from time to time... short dates, so far... don't really know how long this would last, or how long she plans to keep this lie... but I guess that's the burden of being in a situation where you have somebody else... This is only going to end up hurting everybody, but obviously you aren't thinking of what is best for her - You don't care that her husband, nor does she care than her husband has asked for the A to end, for you two be in no contact mode, yet it is being ignored...Only a matter of time before he finds out again. Be prepared for the fallout, possibly a visit by him..
noforgiveness Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 I really dont think so. It is scary to invest so much in someone else when all you have is a dream. But I believe it right now. I will just have to wait and see. Lots of weak or broken marriages fall apart after the kids are out of school or are grown. I think this is one of those. Wow just like his wife believes it right now. She believes you are gone and they are fixing things. She believes her daughter will graduate and they will go on to have grandchildren and happily retire together while you two are schemeing behind her back and his childrens back. NICE...but hey as long as you get your dream you have worked so hard for and to hell with all the years and dreams she has for her future. That is downright cruel to do to another washington. I will not call you a lady. If he wants to leave for you fine but he needs to tell his wife his intentions so she can plan for her future also and whether or not she chooses to stay for their daughter. So she graduates high school. Then what? She has to go away to college alone for the first time and it will be such a hard transition for her and he won't want her to have the extra burden of worrying about her parents and so on and so on. Graduating high school is not some magic grown age when kids don't need mom and dad any more.
reboot Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Graduating high school is not some magic grown age when kids don't need mom and dad any more.But is does make for a pretty good excuse....
noforgiveness Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 But is does make for a pretty good excuse.... Yes yes it does. Senior year of high school and graduation are a breeze. By now you already know your future plans after graduation and what college you are attending. Now transitioning to being a college student and buying for and packing for and mentally preparing to move away from home often across country for college is difficult in just two to three months time and Something you sure need mom and dads support for. Sounds like the worst time to break up a home to me but hey he did his job right? He hung in there with his wifey untill all the kids graduated. LOL
Author washingtonlady Posted December 11, 2007 Author Posted December 11, 2007 Wow !! Tough croud! Sounds like you never been involved with someone who is in a committed relationship. Thats cool for you. I never said it is right, I just know how I feel.
cj1988 Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 All I can say is do not be surprised when the daughter graduates and he finds another excuse or dumps you all together. He is using that now to make sure you stay for as long as you allow yourself to believe his BS ! You are going to get hurt honey and when you do, we will all be here on the LS to help you pick up the pieces. We care about everyone on this forum !
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