truckdriving Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 Well I finally did it, When I got home this last week I told her that we shouldn't see each other anymore. Naturally there was a bunch of yelling and fighting but I packed my things and took off. The whole ordeal took less than 15 minutes but its been haunting me for days. I left town again on friday and she has called me at least 8 times. I never pick up but each time I see her number on the caller id I get this horrible empty feeling inside and feel like I wanna die. But I know that if I talk to her, being the wuss that I am we will end up getting back together. I know that a big part of it is that I am now living in my truck (I'm a long haul trucker) and I dont have anyone to "go home to". What should I do? Should I just keep doing what I have been and just deal with it. Should I risk talking to her to tell her not to call anymore? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!
Lauriebell82 Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 Ok, this is the girl you were engaged to who hated your family I think??? Oh, geez you did the right thing!!! You are just feeling guilty because she keeps calling you. She is being manipulative..yet another reason not to be with this girl! And don't ever be with someone just because you are lonely..that's not going to make you any happier. This girl made you miserable and props to you for having the courage to end it before she ruined your life! PLEASE do not get back together with her. You sound like such a decent guy, I'm sure you'll find someone who you can be happy with. As for her calls, just keep ignoring them. If you answer them it may give her false hope, and like you said you'd be tempted to get back with her. You are just experiencing the loss of the relationship, a very natural thing. You are honestly just going to have to give it some time. You'll get over it, and you will find someone else who will make you happy. I promise!!!!
compassion42 Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 I second Lauriebell's post. Please don't respond-she knows you and is trying to pull at your heart strings. If you ended the relationship, it sounds like it was with good reason. Try to give it some more time and things will get easier and she'll most likely call less and less. Hang in there!
Author truckdriving Posted December 10, 2007 Author Posted December 10, 2007 why did you break it off? Lets just say there are too many reasons to list here. The main reasons I left are because I think she is cheating on me, she hates my family, and I think she may have stolen a large amount of money from me.
Author truckdriving Posted December 10, 2007 Author Posted December 10, 2007 I know I shouldnt get back together with her, but hearing it from you guys makes me feel better. I guess what doesnt kill you makes you stronger right.
Lauriebell82 Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 I know I shouldnt get back together with her, but hearing it from you guys makes me feel better. I guess what doesnt kill you makes you stronger right. Good to hear truckdriving..hang it there it will get easier. Just think to yourself that you will find someone else who makes you happy. I think I said in your other post that self talk really helps deal with a break up. Just keep thinking to yourself everytime you want to get back with her, how much you will love it when you find a girl who loves your family, who loves you, who is willing to do anything for you. Just telling yourself that you WILL find someone better helps get over the "moments of weakness." You did the right thing, don't forget it!
jcster Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 Like you said, part of the reason that you are feeling so badly is because you are sleeping in your truck. If you work on making your life better, the urges to go back to her will diminish significantly. Also, whenever she calls, make a little game out of it - when you see her number come up, start thinking about what she's done to you - and then tell it to the phone (don't answer, just say it) - try something like "oh hell no, you cheating @@*!". It helps a lot.
Author truckdriving Posted December 10, 2007 Author Posted December 10, 2007 Its not that I have to sleep in my truck (I am actually more comfortable in my truck than any where else, probably because I spend an average of 27 days a month in it) its that with my lifestyle being able to get back into the dating scene is gonna be very difficult. I'm always gone, I keep wierd hours, and when I'm working my mind is on one thing and thats work. It used to drive my fiance crazy cause thats all I would talk about when she called. Its my way to keep the loneliness at bay. I do like your idea about talking to the phone though, I may have to try it.
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