TerryTeardrop Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 I heard a saying today that you teach your partner how to treat you Is this true? How?
compassion42 Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 Oh I think it's totally true! It's kind of like the "golden rule" that we learn about in grade school....Treat others the way we want to be treated".
Touche Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 Oh it's completely true. And I think it goes beyond the golden rule. It's not just about treating your partner the way you want to be treated. No, it goes beyond that. It also means that you don't accept treatment that you find unacceptable. Do you see? I see people on here all the time wringing their hands and complaining about what their SO has done to them. Or how they talk to them. So what do you do about it? Do you take it? Or do you put your foot down? Do you let them continue to treat you in a manner that you don't like? Do you reward them even by continuing to be around them so that they can dish out more? Or do you tell them that you need to give them some space to re-think the manner in which they treat you? That when they're ready to treat you in the way that you deserve, you'll come back and not before. So do you see what that means? You do teach your partner how to treat you . It has everything to do with how you react to mistreatment.
Author TerryTeardrop Posted December 9, 2007 Author Posted December 9, 2007 So tell me this, if a guy is really nice to you but does some things that you dont like and you tell him you dont like it but he continues just less often, how do you deal with it? Does it have to be over for good to teach them a lesson? I dont know if I am making sense lol What I mean is that if you dont end the relationship for good then you have let them away with it - So how do you show them without losing them for good?
compassion42 Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 If it's drugs or something serious that you just can't tolerate-then yeah, if they can't/won't stop then you may want to end it. If it's something that is just part of their personality or a simple bad habit like interupting or biting their nails than them making an effort to improve/stop the behavior is a positive step.
Author TerryTeardrop Posted December 9, 2007 Author Posted December 9, 2007 It isnt anything deadly serious it is just a thing that iritates the life outta me I have told him so many times yet he still does it, only less and every time he does it I make a stand and have even ended it a few times. So the question is do I just have to accept it or is he treating me like a fool every time he does it?
tanbark813 Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 I would say it's true. It works pretty much the same as training pets: Punish bad behavior and reward good behavior.
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