Mylife Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 Well, I was deleting old messages from my phone because the memory was full. I was obviously deleting his old messages and one of them, that was really all full of love type I accidentaly pressed send instead of delete.....and right then I pressed cancel...hoping it didnt go through...BUT IT DID And he messaged me right then on msn, saying...you msged me??...and I told him the truth of how he got it accidentaly and everything... And he was like ohh ok, and i just said I am sorry about that, cuz it must have brought back emotions for him i though. And he just its alright not a problem...relax. I just ok and the convo ended there. Firstly, why did he say relax at the end?? And i just feel soo stupid about this that I feel like screaming at why did I do that??... argh!!
bustertypsy Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 Give me some history.How long are you two splitup? Why did you split up? Just trying to get a picture of you.
Author Mylife Posted December 8, 2007 Author Posted December 8, 2007 We split 2 months back after a nice 3 month relationship. We were best friends for 5 months before that. I am 18 and he was my first bf/first date/first relationship and first kiss ever. And we were really intimate but did not sleep with eachother. But I really did love him and he loved me too. We split because of a few reasons, one main one was his parents who live out of the country since he is an international student. When he told them 3 months later about me, they didnt approve of him having a gf due to culture issues and all. Also, because of other things happening in my life with school and bad grades, i used to cry a lot to him and got very clingy and dependent for being happy on him. He started to not hate that about me. But it was a down time in our relatioship and then his parents came in pic because i wanted him to tell his parents. I didnt think it would lead to this. Well anyways...we had a clean break and it was an understanding that a relationship with no future is not worth it. So we split. We promised to be friends, but didnt happen......soo we went with NC...and have been there since one week after the break.
Author Mylife Posted December 8, 2007 Author Posted December 8, 2007 And if u read my other post of just i think a day bak...where I talk of how pathetic i feel for still missing him 2 months later after just a 3 month relationship...it might give u a better idea... its called Normal..or just pathetic??
desertguy Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 MyLife, I wouldn't sweat it, it sounds like he realizes it was an honest mistake, I'd take the words at face value and try not to read anything in or out of it. I had something like this happen once, when I had a cell phone with an open keypad I kept in my pocket, and the numbers would get pressed accidentally sometimes. It ended up calling this girl's number I still had in my address book, but was not interested in, though we had gone out once. I don't think she believed me that it was accidental, because she called me a few days later, and I had to tell her that yes, it actually was accidental, and felt pretty bad about it. It sounds like there's no confusion here, just an innocent accident. I wouldn't worry about it.
Author Mylife Posted December 9, 2007 Author Posted December 9, 2007 Thanks desert guy...and yes i know he was really sweet about it...and knows that it was an honest mistake...that i am happy about.. But what i am thinking about is, that he will think...oh so she hasn't deleted that yet from her phone after all this time??...or what if he got upset because it brought back emotions for him??...the last thing I want is to hurt him ... I just feel sad that I did that, and I wonder how he must have really reacted to it...because I mean it was the type of talking when we were together...like i love you babe and all... And he didnt even worry what was written or anything...he just msged saying...u sent me a msg?... In a way i felt that maybe his reaction to it was oh yay she msged ...but I don't know if you can actually be sure of that through msn... I guess it maybe just me...
desertguy Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 Mylife, if I received a message like that, I would have said something similar, to "you sent me a message?", to at least figure out what was going on here, what else could he really say? As far as his initial reaction, you'll probably never know. But the fact that he acknowledged the message and accepted the explanation sounds like there are no, or minimal hard feelings there. It's embarassing and awkward, to be sure, though. I would just keep maintaining NC, the fact that you continue the NC lends credibility that it actually was just an honest mistake.
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