frd150 Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 Well, I myself will be spending it with family and friends that I neglected during my relationship. Im lucky that they support me without condition. It will be hard though not to think about my ex and the last three christmases. We did so much together,so many memories. Ah,oh well, time to make new ones;). So what will you all be doing? Hopefully you will all be surrounded by good people who will help you keep your mind off whatever you are dealing with. Happy Holidays everyone!
Crestfallen_KH Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 This will be the first Christmas without my ex-husband in 8 years. Unfortunately, I am far away from family, so won't be able to get back to see them, either. But, I'm determined not to let the divorce ruin my favorite holiday! I'm going to set up a tree, make my rum and egg nog and Christmas Eve chili. I'm also going to open one present each day leading up to Christmas so that I have something to look forward to each day. Then, on Christmas day, my Jewish friend and I are going to do a movie marathon day. I'm also glad that this year, I won't have to sit there and pretend to like the awful gifts his family usually got me or pretend to enjoy his mom's fruitcake. I'm looking on the bright side wherever I can.
Author frd150 Posted December 8, 2007 Author Posted December 8, 2007 Im far away also but it was either be totally by myself ar get off my but and go. Im glad your not letting it all ruin something you love so much. Have a Merry Christmas.
kymberann Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 I was hoping it would be different this year, but no. I will be with my kids and that's about it!
randuff Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 Last 4 Christmases were with her.. I am going to be very sad thinking of her spending Christmas with her new man. I guess this will save me about a grand though since I won't be buying anything for her More money to spoil my kiddo with.
BrianG Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 First time in 5 years without her for xmas. My parents have a xmas eve party every year and i have a huge family. I am probably going to have 40-50 people asking me where she is and Im going to have to tell them what happened. Have not seen any of my extended family since the break-up. I am thinking of just saying that im sick or something and stay in bed in my old room at my parents house to avoid all the conversations because I know everybody will be asking about her and I will be have to relive the break up over and over all night. My family loves her so its going to be so hard this year. Think i am just going to pull the sick card this year.
Author frd150 Posted December 9, 2007 Author Posted December 9, 2007 Last 4 Christmases were with her.. I am going to be very sad thinking of her spending Christmas with her new man. I guess this will save me about a grand though since I won't be buying anything for her More money to spoil my kiddo with. Yeah same here. I went out and treated myself but this was before I realised that the last payment was due on the big gift I bought her last year. I had to pay it or all the interest would be added. Done and done. That gohst of christmas past haunts me. Im still happy I treated myself. Football playoffs in HD... AHH yeah merry Christmas to me.
Author frd150 Posted December 9, 2007 Author Posted December 9, 2007 First time in 5 years without her for xmas. My parents have a xmas eve party every year and i have a huge family. I am probably going to have 40-50 people asking me where she is and Im going to have to tell them what happened. Have not seen any of my extended family since the break-up. I am thinking of just saying that im sick or something and stay in bed in my old room at my parents house to avoid all the conversations because I know everybody will be asking about her and I will be have to relive the break up over and over all night. My family loves her so its going to be so hard this year. Think i am just going to pull the sick card this year. The oppisate for me. She has the big family so shell get all the questions. Good luck to you man, Try to have a good time anyway
brothermartin Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 I don't know what I'll be doing. Scary, huh?
AHIWON Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 Last xmas I spent alone. I just got the first hint of my X's affair just 5 days before xmas. We were together for 13 years. I got over that and moved on. Had a gf I really liked from April this year. She disappeared just over a month ago. I am sorta still grieving that. I was looking forward to our first xmas together. I will spend xmas this year with family but I don't feel too much in a festive mood. It certainly will be better than last year, thats for sure. I usually really like xmas time. I have a better year coming up. Hope every one else does too.
T L Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 I spent the last six Xmas's with the X. The X and her family are into Xmas big time and we always did a lot together over the festive season (seems wrong to be that into Xmas, but to sneak around behind my back, that not part of the Xmas spirit!). I will spend Xmas day this year with my parents. I have a feeling new years eve will be the tough one, may try and sleep through it! Its a tradition to have an Xmas meal with all my friends and their SO's, that meal is going ahead this year, but I have declined to attend, I dont want to be the only single, with the split so recent, it will just be too uncomfortable, plus the restaurant holds too many memories. I bought my tree yesterday, not a real one this year, went to the same store we always used to buy our Xmas decorations from, and it wasnt too tough, I actually enjoyed it. The tree looks pretty good in the front window, even if I do say so myself.
MartianChronicles Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 xmas with my family and friends a few days later, i'll be leaving for amsterdam, where i'll spend a week
cant let go Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 i have a feeling christmas will be a lot like the week i went home for thanksgiving... a lot of crying and a lot of pretending that i'm okay and having fun. i wish i could just fast forward through the next year of my life and not have to live in it.
Rooster_DAR Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 i have a feeling christmas will be a lot like the week i went home for thanksgiving... a lot of crying and a lot of pretending that i'm okay and having fun. i wish i could just fast forward through the next year of my life and not have to live in it. Fast forwarding a year may or may not help, this is my second Xmas from my EX and the pain still prevails, although I have made some progress. I still cannot forget her and her family, at least the good times. Cheers!
Jade 02 Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 I know it is hard,I did it the first time(with him for 6 years),and a second time (with him for 8 years,I just went on like I was by my self,and yes it hurt,but held ny head up high,and got threw that one day. It hurst
Jade 02 Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 I spead my happiness to all who was around,and showed love. What else could i do?
AriaIncognito Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 I will be spending the holiday as always, down at my parents and then with my uncle and his family. It will be sad to not have a BF in mind, but well, at least it saves me money on gifts right? My ex was Jewish anyway. He didn't do a thing with me last christmas except exchange gifts with me for christmas/hanukkah. (they fell at similar times). Oh yeah I remember on christmas day or something he was going to go to a Jewish Singles event last year. Because he wasn't committed to me. So at least this year, I won't be thinking about some jerk who might or might not be cheating on me. It's all for the best, for all of us. Someday, we'll see why.
Author frd150 Posted December 11, 2007 Author Posted December 11, 2007 Do you guys think its hard for them.I mean if there were good times and good memories dont you think that they have to deal with the reminders as well? Oh on the evening of christmas day we would go to the movies. This year Ill be on a plane coming home. Hope all of you who posted so far are surprised with a great holiday filled with new memories. Hey Aria! No TP for a while.
spookie Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 I'll be spending the holidays at the strip club that I started working at after my family found out about the abortion that my ex pressured me into and disowned me. Hope that makes everyone feel better. Believe me, no matter where you are, what you are doing, no matter how lonely you feel, almost anything is cheerier than spending Christmas getting drunk with lonely old men who are watching topless girls humping poles. Life's so ironic. This time last year, I was in a 2-year relationship with someone I loved, looking forward to the inevitable engagement as I spent Christmas with my own loving family. So normal, so wholesome. For what it's worth, though, after this fall to rock-bottom, I know I am strong.
CaliGuy Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 I'm going to go snowboarding, do a few track days, relax and basically enjoy life (as I have been for some time). I have a lot of dating options as well so I have no complaints about that. Life is good. Dang good
BlueEyedSarah Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Will have a damn good time with family!
Author frd150 Posted December 11, 2007 Author Posted December 11, 2007 I'll be spending the holidays at the strip club that I started working at after my family found out about the abortion that my ex pressured me into and disowned me. Hope that makes everyone feel better. Believe me, no matter where you are, what you are doing, no matter how lonely you feel, almost anything is cheerier than spending Christmas getting drunk with lonely old men who are watching topless girls humping poles. Life's so ironic. This time last year, I was in a 2-year relationship with someone I loved, looking forward to the inevitable engagement as I spent Christmas with my own loving family. So normal, so wholesome. For what it's worth, though, after this fall to rock-bottom, I know I am strong. Sorry spookie. Im not a fan of the strip club. Maybe a job change? New years resolution? Glad you have found some strength.
Author frd150 Posted December 11, 2007 Author Posted December 11, 2007 I'm going to go snowboarding, do a few track days, relax and basically enjoy life (as I have been for some time). I have a lot of dating options as well so I have no complaints about that. Life is good. Dang good Right on man. Im headed tahoe for new years. Hoping for more snow!!
Trialbyfire Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Christmas will be spent with friends and family, even some business contacts for those much loved cocktail parties (not).
serendip Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 I always take off for christmas...I'm not really a hang out with the family type of guy Last year I was in Vancouver Island surfing The year before that I was in Peru and before that I was in Prague I think this year I might go either to Cuba or somewhere in the south pacific
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