allswell Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 Hi. My bf and I have been broken up for exactly one week. Long short short, we were blissfully happy (really) for almost a year. Then, out of the blue, his ex who broke his heart 6 years ago came back. And, without as much as talking reconciliation with her (I belive him), he left me because he felt like he needed to give another try. Whatever. I am doing fine. I have nerves of steel and the queen of NC so no problem there. Yesterday, I received a package from his mother. It was sent FedEx overnight--mailed 3 days after the breakup. In it, several items--dvd, music, etc.--she sent me because we had talked about them and she thought I'd like it. THIS IS NOT AN XMAS GIFT. In her card, she said I could keep them for as long as I wanted and that it was great having me over for Thanksgiving. No mention of the breakup at all. Now, he told me he was going to tell them because the day we split, we were supposed to spend the day with his parents because the following day, he was going off to a war zone. (For work, a month, not military duty.) I guess he didn't tell them since he knew he was going to get flak and didn't want to deal before such a huge trip. What is going on here, do you think? And how do I handle this gracefully? I love his parents, and don't want to seem rude by not acknowledging this gesture, but don't feel comfortable contacting his family without his knowledge. And no, contacting him via email asking what's up is NOT an option. Oh, I have some other stuff she lent me over the course of our relationship. The plan was that I'd leave the items in a bag where my ex could access it (at work) and take it back to her when he returns from war. Any suggestions?
Sweetcheripie Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 I'm sorry for your break up but you sound very strong - good for you! Regarding his parents, do you have their phone number? I would give the mom a call and thank her and then just matter of factly say since (x) and I are not seeing each other anymore I will return your items right away. Or you could just send them back and include the other things with a quick thank you so much note. In the note, you could add it was a pleasure getting to know them and all your best to them. That way you wouldn't be saying anything about the break up but it would infer it and allow the ex to explain it when he sees them again.
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