Sunblast Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 Most guys know what really sets one girl apart from many others. Most can remember the girl who acted in such a perfect chick way that you couldn't help but smile and wanted to keep her around; you remember the girl who gave a world-class blow job, and things that girls did and said that made you be giddily excited about keeping them around. On the subject of that same world-class blow job: guys will agree that it's a great find to know a girl who is downright excited about going down on you. She purrs, she's all over the place, she doesn't scrape every fifth stroke, she's all into you, and thanks you in the end, too. And you lay back thinking, damn, I'm keeping -her-. I bet most guys agree. What's sexy isn't the bj itself, it's the girl's ATTITUDE: she is INTO you, she WANTS you, she's playful and totally enamored with sex with you and your masculinity, and validates you, to boot. So what's (not nec. oral) the equivalent? What do guys do that makes girls all giddy and head over heels in love?
phyrespryte Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 Hmm... The attitude. He's into you. He wants you. He makes you feel like the most awesome woman ever...
mattea Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 IMO everybody is different in what makes them feel loved and it's not really a gender thing but and individual thing. Each person I've dated has different needs and different things that make them feel loved and cared for. When I'm first meeting someone, I really like it if they take an interest in me and getting to know me. I also really feel special when, over time, a guy will open up to me and share things that he wouldn't share with just anyone and I can do the same. I like to hear what someone likes about me - when someone expresses their feelings verbally.
CD111 Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 Hmm, what catches my attention about a particular guy is when we can relate to each other (have some similar interests and views), he is truly interested me (and not just physically) and takes me for what I am. Personally, I am a pretty adventurous person and when I meet a guy who can handle my year round camping, hiking, road trip and generally roughing it addiction and trust me as I would trust him when we are out in the middle of nowhere without getting freaked out when things don't go as planned, that really attracts me to him. I personally am looking for a man who will be my partner and equal. So trust is important to me.
Heavenly55 Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 Nice to know guys feel validated by shoving their dick down a girl's throat. Ahh the wonders of man.
luckyinlove Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 The attitude. He's into you. He wants you. He makes you feel like the most awesome woman ever... That last sentence hits the nail on the head. My guy constantly has his hands all over me, and lets me know how much he loves it. He tells me I'm beautiful everyday (usually the best on days when I know I look like death). These things are what makes me think, "Wow, I love this man. I want to hold onto him forever..." That and when he randomly pounces on me, pulls off my clothes, and makes it clear that he wants to please me in any way possible, and until then i'm not allowed to move... meeeow. I think one of the big differences between girls and guys is that girls (at least in my opinion) are really into the little things. It's all the little things that their men don't even realize their doing that we find the sexiest, most wonderful things about them. The little things that remind us that they really do care, the things that aren't just words that anyone can spout out.
Trimmer Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 Nice to know guys feel validated by shoving their dick down a girl's throat. Ahh the wonders of man. You might want to consider the possibility that Sunblast doesn't speak for all of us...
spookie Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 Interesting. My ex hated blowjobs. He said they made him feel like he was using me. Myself, I used to love giving them to HIM, but nowadays the idea of a cock in my mouth sickens me. Anyways... To get back on topic, I'd say I love nonsexual physical contact. Being spooned, hugged, petted, my hand being held, etc. makes me feel warm, safe, and cozy inside. Like my heart is bloating for how much I care about him. But maybe it's relationship-specific? In my one previous to this one, I felt loved when he listened.
tommyr Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 To get back on topic, I'd say I love nonsexual physical contact. Being spooned, hugged, petted, my hand being held, etc. makes me feel warm, safe, and cozy inside. Care to elaborate on what form of nonsexual petting you love?
Author Sunblast Posted December 8, 2007 Author Posted December 8, 2007 You might want to consider the possibility that Sunblast doesn't speak for all of us... Not to trivialize my thread, which I genuinely think is very important, but we had another post where we all agreed that Sunblast is to be the speaker on behalf of all men, so I would like to refer Trimmer to that thread for reference. /smile/
Author Sunblast Posted December 8, 2007 Author Posted December 8, 2007 It's all the little things that their men don't even realize their doing that we find the sexiest, most wonderful things about them. The little things that remind us that they really do care, the things that aren't just words that anyone can spout out. Okay, now we're getting somewhere. This is what I'm asking about. I want not even a list of things, but how you see men, how you perceive men generally and various individual ones. Of course, we're all adults, so I hope to get accurate feedback, if any at all. Most women in my experience and probably in general usually mimic men they talk to and say what they think we want to hear. I've written about that in a Rant recently (look if you like). So here, I'm hoping for a more honest answer. So if you imagine yourself at a house party (supposing you're 25 and not 35), you see a man that you want... What sorts of things? Do you look at his attitude, at his friends, at how he's treated, at shoes and facial hair, etc... Those kinds of things, or something else, but don't just say "I feel it, I dunno." or "He makes me feel special." -- how?
JeanQueen Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 Hey, I give a "world class blow job" and that has not guaranteed a guy will stay interested in me (at least not in the past). Men are strange like that. If I found a cool guy who gave great oral I wouldn't be so quick to throw them away. I don't get it. It's a combination of things that make someone special and makes me want to keep him around. Usually personalty as well as sexual attraction and some sort of drive or interest in something other than themselves is what gets me.
RecordProducer Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 you remember the girl who gave a world-class blow job, and things that girls did and said that made you be giddily excited about keeping them around. On the subject of that same world-class blow job: guys will agree that it's a great find to know a girl who is downright excited about going down on you. She purrs, she's all over the place, she doesn't scrape every fifth stroke, she's all into you, and thanks you in the end, too. And you lay back thinking, damn, I'm keeping -her-. Women don't put guys into categories according to the oral sex they give them. However, we do put men in categories according to the amount of shallowness they demonstrate. You expect from a girl to say "Thank you" after she swallowed your load? And that's apparently the only test she has to pass for you to decide that you're keeping her... How sad. I never say "thank you" for sex and would be very offended if someone thanked ME for letting him screw me. In my book, it's a matter of mutual attraction and desire. I am nobody's personal whore and don't expect gratitude or tips for the service received. "Thank you for choosing RP. Please come back again!"
Leoni Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 I know what doesn't work for me. A boy/guy who's completely shallow.
Trimmer Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 Not to trivialize my thread, which I genuinely think is very important, but we had another post where we all agreed that Sunblast is to be the speaker on behalf of all men, so I would like to refer Trimmer to that thread for reference. /smile/ Apologies. Musta missed the memo. I'll try to pay more attention.
Author Sunblast Posted December 9, 2007 Author Posted December 9, 2007 I think I wanna date Jean (the bj queen?); we seem to be on the same page in the matter.
luckyinlove Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 So if you imagine yourself at a house party (supposing you're 25 and not 35), you see a man that you want... What sorts of things? Do you look at his attitude, at his friends, at how he's treated, at shoes and facial hair, etc... Those kinds of things, or something else, but don't just say "I feel it, I dunno." or "He makes me feel special." -- how?[/QUOTE] This really is tough considering it is very true that all women are different. And like I said before, it's all the little things the guy doesn't even realize he's doing, and therefore certainly not the things he's TRYING to do to impress a woman. Girls can usually tell when guys are actually interested and not just trying to get into their pants, and that's a huge turn on. As is the way a man carries himself. Confidence=good, Overconfident cockiness=horrible. Another big turn on is a guy that you can tell likes to have a good time, but ISN'T all over every girl there. When a guy gives you his attention, and you're interested in him, one of the biggest things that will steer a girl away is showing that same interest in someone else. Another little tip, check out this post "Thing you love about your SO" http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t137068/ Maybe a little more specific, but it definitely gives you an idea as to what drives girls crazy about their men.
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